I'm moving back into my in laws 100+ miles away.. I need support

[PandaDad]

Hi folks, but of a narcissistic post here so I apologize lol. I know you all have your own lives and problems but it helps me so much just to hear other people's experiences and good wishes whenever I am anxious.

So whats causing me a lot of anxiety is:

1. Our landlord is an absolute di**, making us feel terrible over the last year, and is now increasing rent again... Second time this year


2. We are moving back to my in laws with 2 kids, negates the first worry tbh, but that is just what caused all of this


3. The move is over 100 miles away, so worried if something will have to get less behind (we are decluttering and shiz)

Thanks folks <3.

You certainly have my good wishes but are you sure this is the best option?

Yes 100%. The rental market has made it utterly impossible to save for a mortgage. We could save for 2 years and make up a very decent deposit which will take us over 10 years if we were privately renting, and by then, the house prices would have gone up even more. We also wont have to deal with horrible landlords anymore.

It probably makes sense from a practical point of view but depending on the set up and your relationship with them will it work for your MH?
Only you know that, best of luck with it

Think of the extra childcare. Do you have friends in that area? I would encourage you to have a support network that you can get out for a bit and have a break from it all. Some of my friends did this and it wasn’t nearly as bad as everyone expected. Families generally all want the arrangement to work, hopefully it will for you too.

I completely agree motheranddaughtertotwo. We have literally 0 support network here, so that's another big reason to go back, because we will have loads there. It'll enable me and my wife to actually have time to ourselves for a date every now and then too, and we haven't been able to have any for the last 5 years.

I have had a couple of friends who did this to save up to buy. It was generally ok. Some ups and downs and some stresses but worth it in those cases.

I agree with others finding friends and developing your own support network is vital.
Hope it's ok

How do you get on with your ILs?
How big is their house ?

How long will you be living at your in laws?
How well do you get on? Have you spend extended periods of time with them before?
How big is their house?

I honestly can’t think of anything worse than living with my MIL (FIL is lovely though!) -depends a lot on the individual personalities and the time frames involved.

Hi folks! So, MIL is lovely. She's been diagnosed with cancer a few months ago, both ours mothers aren't in good health which is another big reason we are moving. She's still a force of nature though so she's happy for us to come down. We lived in with her and my FIL before, for around a year and a half.. Good at fist, but became very stressed and tense, but that was because my FIL was a violent alcoholic, and actually went to prison a few months after we left. He's much better now though, but they don't have any contact now. He can see our kids fine though, prison honestly gave him a big wake up call and he's genuinely trying to be a good guy now. (lol just realising my life sounds like so much drama - honestly it's not lol)

It will be a lot easier with just MIL. I don't know how much babysitting you think she's up to with a cancer diagnosis though.

Oh, don't worry we aren't expecting her to really do any babysitting if I'm honest. It's more of, if after we put the kids to bed we can go out for an hour or so at the local. We're always mindful of her health first though, she's already doing so much for us we don't want to take the P.