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6 month old baby but feel so alone!

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Lifefromhereyes · 02/06/2022 21:27

Me and my husband have just had a 6 month old baby. When I was 3 months pregnant, I found out that my husband had taken another girls number at the train station and he had messaged her. Ever since that day, I have not trusted him. For instance, when we went out on holiday recently I felt like he would look at other girls and it would make me really paranoid and upset. He denies all of that, and says I need to move on from the past. He is the only one working and so financially pays for everything. He is not stindgey which is good but most times when he comes home from work he is so tired he just stays on his phone or speaks with other family members. I do everything around the house, including looking after our baby.

often, I find he only answers me one worded with me which I take it as being very cold. He says he is just tired. But I feel very alone at times! Anyone have any advice? He is paying for everything but in all other respects I feel alone.

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RhiRhi1996 · 03/06/2022 01:37

Honestly, the behaviour of taking another woman's number (especially when your pregnant) and checking out women so blatantly that you notice , is not a good sign. It shows imo his lack of loyalty to the relationship.

I am currently pregnant and would be heartbroken to find out my husband done that. Also, we all find other people attractive but I think checking out people to that extent is disrespectful, in front of your partners face

Did he apologise for taking the woman's number and realised he made a mistake?

The one word answers & coldness also suggests he has mentally switched off from the relationship.

I know it's hard as you are financially dependant on him & with a 6 month old so leaving is hardly an option, but the red flags are there.

I would try speaking to him about how you feel regarding loneliness and how you feel he is withdrawn.

I know it's hard with him tired from working and you tired from childcare & cleaning, but if there is any way for you to get out of routine and have some fun as a family or couple (if someone looking after DC is possible) .

I think we can all get bogged down with the routine of things and that can be a killer on relationships .

If he cares for you, he will be willing to listen & try work together to get your relationship stronger.

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