Anyone else feel like they're suffocating

[Getrichslow]

I don't get one second to myself someone is bursting in the door looking for attention.
I feel so smothered and suffocated
I don't see why I should have to leave the house to get a seconds peace !
I can't stop crying lately and I'm so fat my husband no longer finds me attractive.
I genuinely think his threshold of attraction is 3 stone lighter than I am which is never going to Japanese again I'm nearly 50.
I give up.

life can be hard can’t it op! Who is the someone’s that is bursting in the door looking for attention, let them wait, don’t put yourself down you shouldn’t have to leave the house to get some peace it’s ridiculous, I had put on a lot of weight and although my husband still found me attractive, I hated how I looked so slowly and surely I changed my eating habits went walking every day and eventually lost over two stone, it was hard it’s still an ongoing thing, I’m 65! Has he said he doesn’t find you attractive anymore I hope he hasn’t, or is it you that’s thinking this,

No he'd never say it but actions speak louder than words.
I just can't lose it and can't keep it off I don't know why.
It's like self sabotage.
And then to feel better i eat...
65 - well done if he's still interested.
It's the kids and him knocking down the door. Sometimes I think unjust everyone's b1tch or like the. Hub of the family. They even filter communications through me. It's exhausting.

I can understand where you are coming from when we are unhappy we eat and eat the wrong things ! To make ourselves lift! Or some will go the other way and not eat at all, is there any way you can speak to him when your kids are in bed and explain you cannot go on like this enough is enough or speak to them altogether , yes mums are the hun if the family but that doesn’t mean they should be on call 24/7 that would drive me bloody nuts! Your husband is acting like a big kid himself and should be giving you support love I don’t know how old your kids are but they should be taking responsibility too and not constantly badgering you

Relationships are hard work even the happiest a lot of give and take on both sides. You don’t sound like a bitch to me just someone who needs some space away from everyone needing her at the same time but you are also a person too in your own right just as much as they are!

Thanks yes was feeling a bit low last night and am overwhelmed with obligations.

Sorry you're feeling like this OP. You probably know this already but you need to prioritise self care. Start putting boundaries in incrementally. Locking the bathroom door and having a soak, going for a walk, not getting into other peoples drama by smiling and shutting it down in the nicest possible way. You're no good to anyone burnt out. Take care 💐

OP I could have written this post myself! I’m 35 tomorrow! I’ve put on nearly 8 stone since I gave birth two and a half years ago! I’m so miserable and depressed about everything. I can’t make a decision. I want to lose weight but I feel
so miserable I’m comfort eating. I’m unhappy everywhere! I don’t know what to suggest other than to tell you, you’re not alone!

Gosh 8 stone ... what were you before and after ?
I've put on basically 2.5-3 stone in 20 years I suppose not terrible but not amazing.

@Notsomellownow thanks trying to put some time boundaries on attention issues - eg you can have one hour on this. Mixed results but it's something.

I was just over 10 stone and now I’m nearly 18! Health visitor came today, said my mental
health not in a good place and it isn’t! I just don’t have any capacity to concentrate on me.

in two and a half years I’ve had to
-navigate lockdowns whilst:

*my sister was sectioned…twice
*my mum got breast cancer for a second time!
*learning to be a mum for the first time
*battling post natal anxiety
*going back to work full time seven months after DS was born

HV said…oh wow have you had any time off sick? And the answer is no! I just really don’t have any mental capacity to think about weight loss