I feel like i haven't acheived anything

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I am so down at the moment and even if no one replies i know its good to write things down.
I am 27, I have ds - 7 and dd - 3 months. I love my kids to bits they are my life but i feel so down. I have recently joined a social networking site and everyone i know seems to be getting married or travelling the world, or being sucessful in their careers. I feel like i have not acheived anything other than my children.

I have only just worked out what i want to do with my life - i want to train to be a midwife. - If i do that though it means studying fulltime and therefore not earning money which we desperatly need but strangly enough i know this is what i am meant to do - the one thing i am sure of in my life.

My dp works hard - but we are in debt and it scares me as we have no security. I try and talk to him but he ignores me.

My family all live far away. - My parents split when i was in my teens and i never see them as they live overseas, I wish i had them here - i need someone to rely on and talk to.

I have 2 best friends who are great but i continually feel inferior to them - they always have new clothes and are going places which i could never afford.I dont have time to brush my hair some days! ( i know i shouldnt feel like this)

When I was 17 i was in an abusive relationship and i had an abortion. - No one knows. He hit me and knocked me unconcious. He continually called me a murderer for aborting his child although he was the one who made me do it. I used to self harm and no one knew about that either - I am a stronger person now and i have changed so much but why do i feel so alone and not in control.
To be honest i think i am becoming depressed. i have tryed to talk to my dp but he brushes everything under the carpet.

I wish i could escape sometimes, be free and do all the things i should have done by my age before i settled.

I would like some advice please - i know i have a lot to be thankful for i wish i didnt continually feel like this. Thanks

Hiya, im still up if you feel like a ramble

You are such a strong person for getting to the place you are at now - I have much admiration for you for knowing that you want to train as a midwife - that is such a worthwhile career. (So what if everyone on this social networking website is travelling the world thats prob a load of b)

Please look to yourself and your family and feel good about yout achievements and your goals...

Yes, we are in a lot of debt too - and I am v worried about that. But there are some solutions and help out there. HTH x

Thanks, sometimes i just feel i have totally fucked everything up already. I wish i knew what i do now 10 years ago

27 wow thats no age at all!

People talk crap on social networking sites, take no notice. Its great that you have a career in mind, i'm older than you and have no idea what I want to do!

Enjoy your kids for now and feel good about what you have acheived. Hope you feel better soon.

I'm nearly 37 and in the definitions of the world, I've 'achieved' FA.

But I'm alive, I've got a DH and two lovely girls!

So there you.

Stop sweating it and start living it how you see and how makes you happy.

Your kids, what they'll see is a happy mummy.

Hi its not to late for you to achieve your goal of becoming a midwife, i was your age when i went back to study after having my ds1, please dont compare your life to other peoples, be happy with what you have, two children is a blessing and a big achievement in itself.

I dont mean to sound patronising but have you thought that it maybe your hormones making you feel this way? its not long since your had your DD, if your dh wont listen then try talking to a friend about how you feel, or go and see your gp.

I really do sympathise with you as i was in an abusive relationship from the age of 17 to 24, when i left i was just a mum and felt i had not achived anything, i went back to studying and got a good job which meant i got to travel a bit too.

I hope you feel better soon

when i say i was just a mum, i now realise that being a mum is the hardest and most rewarding job in the world!

And its the highest paid job in the world since the payment for it is pure love

Thanks - i know i should chill out. At the end of the day i have 2 children and thats more precious than anything. I get like this every couple of weeks or so and i feel inconsoloble even though i know full well there are people out there with much more to worry about than me.

Ive achieved nothing either really apart from my two beautiful kids of course. But then I never wanted anything other than a family so I cant grumble..I just get a husband now and hey, all complete

It is rubbish what people say online. I am on friends reunited and it really hacked me off seeing what my classmates had apparently achieved...even the nerds . Then I saw one profile of an old friend from primary school who was a nanny, and had travelled the world. B**ks, thinks I, I was talking to your mum the other week, you're single and on the dole, you've never left this country.

It made me wonder what lies the others could be telling tbh! The grass is not always greener!

thanks, i just feel like i have done things the wrong way round i s'pose.
bloody facebook, i hate it

Oh blimey dont believe facebook everyone tells fibs on there!

Hi im a new member tonight. Is there anybody still up. I just wanted to talk to someone about family life feeling very low, myfamily are very nasty to me. I try and do everything for them but I just get abuse. To the point I feel like walking out and leaving them.