Regret moving

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We decided to buy a house 30 minutes from my home town, we couldn't get anything in our price bracket in our area, my husband asked me if I was sure and I was nervous but it'll be fine.

We've been here near 4 months now and 'fine' couldn't be far enough from the truth.. I had made friends before I left and we went out and took our kids places as they were in the same class, I can't make it now and although I've made new friends I feel out of place.

I had a routine in the week, all gone.. I don't know anyone, I don't drive so I pretty much don't see anyone unless I goto the school run. But because of covid I barely know anyone in the class and I never really see any other mums.

The schools differ and my little ones old school is doing lovely things I would love to do with my kids and attend but they don't do that in the new school, they still have covid restrictions. I am feeling really sad as I've not had school pictures, any progress or things to do with my little one whilst my old friends are sharing what they've done.

I'm trying so hard but I hate it here.. I've tried making friends but I feel like I don't fit in, I miss seeing my family and old friends and I feel so isolated and missing my little ones old school.

Thank you for taking the time to reply @LMaufe.
We moved back to my hometown in December last year (1hr away) we’re now closer to family and we could afford a bigger house here, but I’m really missing our old area, we lived in a lovely village, my daughter loved her primary school and friends and I had a lovely group of mum friends I made through the school as well. Since moving back I just don’t feel myself, my daughter is in a much larger school and is settling sort of ok (better than we thought) but I know she would have been happier at her old school. Plus my work commute has doubled.
There’s lots of factors but ultimately I can’t shake the feeling of this not being right for me, I just don’t feel like myself and don’t enjoy seeing and being in the place I grew up in anymore. I feel I’ve moved on.

My DDs are 7 and 2, financially I think it would be tough to move back but we can do it. And you can’t put a price on your mental health!
As much as I love my family, it doesn’t feel much different being round the corner from them and I really miss my friendships as you have said.

What helped you make the decision to move back in the end? Are you moving children schools?

Hi @TheCalmCat Yes, everyone is different so it's hard to compare situations but within a few weeks I felt we'd made a mistake in moving. 6 years on I feel similar (if not exactly the same) and we're moving back.

We've timed the move to be after the youngest went to university (last September). What helped make the decision is hard to say exactly but broadly, we don't feel settled where we are and have realised it's not where we want to be long term.

We'll be different people, in a way, to who we were when we left. But I still love the old location and have maintained contact with friends there so hopefully it will be ok.

At 7 and 2 moving is pretty easy as children of that age are so adaptable. We moved when ours were 12 and 14 - terrible idea! The youngest was ok but not the older one. I wouldn't recommend that. Personally, if I were you, the sooner the better if you want to move back (but I caveat that again with - "everyone is different"!)