Could my husband have ADHD?

[livesatwitsend]

I have name changed for this. I'm not sure if I am even in the right section.
My husband has yet again snapped at me tonight when he was frustrated in trying to cope with a hot item from the BBQ. He didn't know where to put it in the kitchen and so snapped at me " that's it stand and stare me while I do this ". He did immediately apologise as I have been bringing these things to his attention. Although this sounds nothing, we were having a lovely drink and BBQ to start the weekend and this kind of thing just spoils it for me. He always reverts to this " blame me for something" when he struggles. Other things he struggles with are - using his phone at times to search for information, following sat nav instructions in the car, following any spoken and written instructions ( he likes to be shown how to do things but at the same time is crabby about it) , using banking apps at times. He is outwardly seen as a social friendly person but I know he gets very anxious about social situations he has to go to. If we are going somewhere we have to be early - very early. Unfamiliar places cause him stress eg we were recently on holiday which causes the " you said to go left" etc. He has been on Sertraline for many years now as he had time off work due to anxiety. He is a very kind and loving person, a good father but this aspect can ruin events or holidays. Any advice welcome. Thank you.

Not like the ADHD in my family, no.

Sorry.

I don’t know OP. My DH was diagnosed with High functioning ADHD about 5 years ago. I still don’t understand on what basis. He saw a private psychiatrist. Increasingly I think that people get labeled with very few symptoms and if you pay enough or see enough people someone will tell you what you want to hear. On a day to day basis does it make any difference? My husband is still fairly short tempered and pretty difficult to predict. For me having a peg on which to hang his coat isn’t an excuse.

He sounds like a prick to me, it's common nowadays for women to try and justify their arsehole husband's behaviour as a 'disorder' though. Think about how he treats you and ask yourself why you have decided to live that way. Then leave him.