Why am I so desperate to have my husband acknowledge that I'm suffering from depression ?

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My husband always downplays my troubles. Even when I'm really really down in the dumps. He says it's normal and I need to just be more positive. He gets frustrated with me. At times like this, I feel like screaming and saying that I can't just be more positive and really need proper support from him and everyone around me. I need everyone to acknowledge I have this issue.

Why ? Why does this matter to me ? Is this depression talking ? It seems self involved. Why do I have these feelings ? Do other people have them ? Why do I need to be validated in my suffering ? I don't get it. It seem self indulgent. Is that the depression talking ? Do others feel like this ?

It's very natural to want someone else to validate what you say. By refusing to do so, your partner invalidates your feelings. Maybe he's just insensitive, or maybe he's the problem. If you live with someone long enough who always invalidates how you feel, you'll end up pretty depressed.