Hi everyone
Just looking for a little insight.
I have bpd (borderline personality disorder) and one of my issues is sometimes struggling to recognise whether a situation is caused by me or somebody else. I do try really hard to see through this but it can be very difficult for me, and has caused me to be manipulated and abused in the past, so its very confusing for me.
My partner has his own house an hour and a half from me and usually sees his children, but because of a dispute in court at the moment he isn't seeing them and is at mine full time for around two months now. He is also freelance and so works from mine but he lost work due to covid so money is tight. He doesn't have much work on so he either sits around reading, plays computer games or does stuff with music on his laptop.
Because of my mental illness I take medication, which leaves me very drowsy in a morning and so he offered to take them to school which is just on the next street. He is now saying that it makes him to tired. I said I would start taking them again. He then said no, it doesn't matter, I'm up anyway.
He drives and I don't, so he will go out and get dinner, and cooks. He does this maybe three, four times a week. My children go to their dads from Friday to Sunday so he doesn't have to do anything on those days. He said it was tiring him so I suggested we could order online instead. He did it once then that was it. I offer solutions and he just dismisses me.
I feel like he's taking me for granted. I pay for all the bills, most of the food pick the kids up from school, clean all of the house and clothes washing, while doing everything for my kids, I also have uni work. I just expect him to help out somehow as he is living full time at my house. He says he has his own bills to pay, (he doesn't pay rent as he bought it) so he doesn't have any money to give me.
Lately he has been moody, snappy and picky. My children have now picked up on this and we all feel like we are walking on eggshells. I know that he his going through a stressful time but living with with him has become really unpleasant.
Am I completely in the wrong here? Am I wrong to feel the way I do? Am I doing something wrong? If I am I would really appreciate some constructive and positive criticism so I can fix this.
Thanks very much