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Pregnant and sad, do I need help?

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Moonchildx · 11/05/2022 22:23

Sorry in advance for the lost post, I’ve really questioned posting this but I am in such a blurry horrible place at the moment I thought it might help writing it all down.
I recently found out I’m pregnant, I already have a DD who is my world, we were going to try for another when she was 3/4.
Ever since I’ve found out about this pregnancy I’ve been in such a bad place mentally, as soon as I’m behind closed doors I can’t help but sob to the point my eyes are sore, I keep trying to tell myself it’s only a 1 or 2 different to our plan, but I can’t shake this sadness off and it’s making me feel AWFUL, I wish I could be excited and enjoy this pregnancy but I can’t, I feel so ashamed and sad. Me and DH haven’t been in great terms since I found out either.

We had a lot of plans this year which I can do pregnant but I keep thinking at how tired and long they’ll be, we will need to try and upsize abit sooner than we thought and with prices and cost of living at the moment I try not to think about it, my job has become very demanding and causing me stress
Looking back, when DD was about 4 months I started being very down and I tried to reach out and got scared and tried to bury my sad feelings (nothing towards my DD), I just feel something isn’t 100% in my head and need some help but I’m scared with what they can offer me. If I don’t reach out will these feelings get worse and worse?

Please can someone tell me this will get better? That I will love this baby? Sorry I sound like a awful person. Thank you to whoever reads this x

OP posts:
Mischance · 11/05/2022 22:25

I am so sorry that you are feeling so very sad.

One of my DDs suffered with ante-natal depression and she had support and help from her surgery. It is a real thing and needs help. Please go to your doctor.

Moonchildx · 12/05/2022 08:16

@Mischance thank you for your reply xx
I will contact my GP now, I was worried he might say I’m too early to develop this?
it’s very weird I go to bed in some kind of fog and I wake up happy and fine…. Hopefully they can help x

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MummyT13 · 12/05/2022 08:22

@Moonchildx you don't have to be pregnant to feel like this so if anyone tells you that you "are too early to feel like this" then go and see someone else. Is this something you can speak to a midwife about? I'm not sure where you are but in the south of england we can self refer to mental health support.

You'll be okay, and it's nothing to be embarrassed about. It sounds like you dote on your DD 😊 I'm sure you're an amazing mum. I felt like you with my DS but the second he came out the mothers instinct kicked it and I'd forgotten the 9 months prior. X

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