Need a hand hold, I know I am being ridiculous

[Greebosmum]

Hi everyone. Wasn't sure if this was mental health or menopause, a bit of both I think.

I have been depressed my entire life from a tiny child. I only worked this out fairly recently when it occurred to me that the way I feel when depressed is the way I felt at 7. I am now 60 so grew up in the 60s when the idea of a depressed child would be regarded as too silly for words.

Anyway, I am taking Fluoxetine which makes life bearable. I am often frustrated because I have caring responsibilities which sometimes stop me doing things I had planned or wanted to do but generally get on ok.

I am having a bit of a crisis this weekend for the most ridiculous reason and I would think anyone else who got upset by this needed a bit of a head wobble.

My lovely husband (he is definitely not the problem) is the drummer in a local rock band. Had a gig Saturday night. I had friends to sit with not driving, all good. Except, the singer always makes a filthy joke about his Mum and Dad. A member of the crowd, a youngster, obviously misheard what he said, came over to me and asked if I was the singers Mum.

I laughed it off at the time, I am 6 years older than the singer. However since I got home I can't stop crying and feel totally hideous and worthless. Lovely DH keeps telling me I'm beautiful and he loves me but it doesn't help.

Now sensible head says this guy was young drunk and stupid. Emotional head just wants to die.

Please tell me I'm being daft and my life isn't over.

Ah that's harsh!
It's crazy how sometimes things just 'land' badly and can knock you off course.
I bet most days you would have either brushed that comment off or pulled him up on being rude, were you already feeling a bit low or insecure or did it blindside you?

Some people are terrible judges of age. Don't read too much into it.

Honestly, people are thick. Ignore!!

Many years ago now, I was out with a friend. I think I was about 23, so she'd have been about 35 and this person addressed her as my Mum. She was SO upset about it. But honestly, no one in their right mind would have thought she was old enough to have been my Mum (even despite me looking young for my age).

Thank you. I do know I'm ridiculous. I do feel better for writing it down. Did some surprisingly vigorous exercise (clicked on the wrong video) which has helped too. Trying to keep busy and find other stuff to think about, would probably be better off at work today.

OP, I swore out loud at something I said at university (I left 24 years ago) the other day, sometimes we just latch onto sticks to continually beat ourselves with.

It's not what the lad said (which was tactless and annoying), but the fact that are are continuing to beat yourself with it. Cut yourself done slack, recognise you're feeling tender at the moment and this is just a trigger/symptom.

Is it only this it are other things hard too, might you need a med review with GP?