can't cope with dd today :(

[helewele]

DD is 2.1 and awaiting asd diagnosis. She has been going totally mental this morning, and I just can't cope with her. She has been yelling and screaming since 8am, for no reason, and she keeps hurting herself. Now she won't even let me come near her to try and comfort her.

Was already feeling fragile this morning, and now she is just pushing me over the edge. Don't know what to do anymore, I just feel like I'm letting her down all the time and being a really crap mum.

I feel so unhappy.

is she calm if she has a bath

lots of water play

it calms down my ds

bubbles are a great distraction

and are calm for you too as you have to breath slowly

sounds silly but it works for me

good luck

helewele, so sorry you're having such a bad time. I don't have experience of asd, so not sure if this is any help, but is there any way you can get her outside? or - something that my 2.5 reacts well too - a bath? Somehow the water calms her down, and she loves her bath toys and splashing me.

Hope you've been able to comfort her a bit.

aha, great minds think alike, Alice!

thanks for the replies alice,

she can't have a bath as in this sort of mood she's pull and scratch at her skin til it rips will try bubbles thou, will maybe calm her down a bit

hi

ds would either love or hate!! baths

music

would work as a distraction

my ds can bounce off the walls somedays

be near her and try to keep calm

i wish you luck ds is bouncing me off the sofa

take care

hi peat,

Will try to take her out later, but atm she still isn't dressed, as I can't get near her, and it would just add to the stimulation problem. Just don't know what to do with her when she has a meltdown. Wish we had some more support from somewhere, but being prediagnosis, there is very little. Would also help if I didn't feel so down all the time.

can you put some calming music on? If you're sitting in one room with the music on, will she come and find you?

Have you spoken to your doc about feeling down all the time?

she won't come find me at all, she would rather I didn't exsist when she is like this. managed to calm her down some with shrek 2 makes me feel terrible - not only can I not calm and comfort my own child, shrek and the fairy godmother get more response and affection than I do (she is currently hugging and kissing our tv)

Don't know what else I can do to help her.

Was discharged by CPN (after almost 2 years) last month as she felt I was becoming to dependent on her (?) and we weren't making much headway on how I was feeling. I felt that I couldn't really talk to her, that I had to pretned that everything was always ok, and when I did acutally admit to how I was feeling, she was disappointed and almost angry (which prevented me doing it again)

Don't know if I want to see the doc - he'll probably just give me some ad's (which don't work for me, have tried many types during a spell in hosp) and refer me back to CPN

Just don't know what to do, sorry for the long post and many thanks to everyone who has replied x

young children are very self involved

they see things in a different way than us
maybe when you have watched the movie you could put on a story tape

my ds likes the cbeeies radio on the internet

try to break the day into tiny pieces

don't look at the whole day

Helewele, sorry you're having a hard time, Can you burn some lavender oil? I used to live off the stuff.

Hi again, hele, sorry to disappear on you rather suddenly. How has your day been? Hope dd is almost in bed ...

hi i popped in to check you day ended ok too

Thanks for checking in on me again.

Finally got her settled and sorted, and we got out for some fresh air after she'd had a wee sleep.

Feeling a bit better today - play therapist came out to see her, so had 30 mins to myself.

thanks for listening to me yesterday - sometimes I just need someone to help me see sense.

hele