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Borderline Personality Disorder and relationships

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Queenbee95 · 21/04/2022 22:32

Hi everyone. I guess I just need some advice..

I’ve been with my wonderful fiancé for 2 and a half years now, we have a beautiful 1 year old daughter together. We also both have children from other relationships (we both co-parent fantastically).

He is the most amazing man I have ever met. I swear he is an angel and he does so much for our family and me. I love him so very much.

I haven’t been coping well with my mental health recently. I am very depressed right now and I feel I am suffering from PTSD after suffering 4-5 hemorrhages after having an unplanned home birth (I have not been diagnosed officially).

I have reached out to my GP surgery, mental health nurse and also an independent donation-based counselling service - they then told me they couldn’t help me as my problems were too “complex” so they called my health visitor who then called my GP and MH nurse to set up a face to face appointment (which is next week).

ANYWAY - my main issue is I really really feel like my fiancé is losing interest in me right now. He just doesn’t seem himself around me, he’s acting unusually distant, just being “weird” I guess. It’s hard to explain. I feel like I am constantly hounding him asking if he is ok, or if I have done something to upset him, but he always says he’s fine and everything’s ok.
I really don’t know if this is all in my head and I’m just disassociating/disconnecting with our relationship or if there is maybe more to it.

I’m unsure what to do, or even what I’m looking for by posting this. I guess I just need to get it all off my chest before I explode. Sorry for a long post of rambling x

OP posts:
Queenbee95 · 21/04/2022 22:34

Also to add - I feel that all of the services I have contacted regarding my mental health have all let me down. I have told countless “professionals” of my suicidal thoughts, etc, but I feel no one is helping or listening to me

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XenoBitch · 22/04/2022 21:47

It could be that your fiancé is also dealing with his own mental health issues? Maybe suggest he sees the GP too.

biggreenhouse · 22/04/2022 21:51

if you feel like you are hounding him, stop it. You will certainly push him away if you are doing that.
The title of your post is confusing. Are you saying you've been diagnosed with BPD?

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