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To feel contented but never truly happy

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xXwhenwillitendXx · 18/04/2022 20:20

I've battled depression in the past and know my symptoms, so I don't feel I'm depressed, and haven't been since having DD 2 years ago, i have the normal day to day stresses but nothing major, however I never feel truly happy.
I have a good job, enough money to get by, a wonderful DD and a decent relationship (normal relationship when having young children Eg, some element of stress and not enough time together) and feel contented with life.
But, I never seem to look forward to anything, don't really find things funny and never seem to belly laugh, I feel I'm very serious in life and struggle to let myself go and although I enjoy things, I don't take great pleasure from things.
There is nothing I'm desperate to do or achieve in life, infact I've got everything I've always wanted.
Does anyone else ever feel like this, and is ot a bad thing or are some people genuinely just contented people??

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Rochetta · 19/04/2022 15:27

Hi, I don't have any advice but you've described how I feel a lot of the time too. I wonder if it's partly an age thing. I'm late 30s, and nothing seems new or exciting anymore.

Have you looked up anhedonia?

xXwhenwillitendXx · 19/04/2022 18:09

Just looked it up, it says it's related to depression but I really don't feel depressed, far from it.
I'm mid 30s so could be an age thing.
Maybe when DD is a little older I'll get enjoyment from her enjoyment.

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Clumsyandshy · 19/04/2022 19:27

As unhelpful as it might sound, it may be just part of your personality. We change as we get older so perhaps things that brought you joy just don't anymore.

Definitely consider booking a docs appointment if it's something that's deeply concerning you but depending on how severe this is, being level headed and content can be a blessing. I strive for both but am on the other end of the spectrum. I can switch quickly from overjoyed to depressed and it's pretty intense. Not to say, one is better than the other but it's interesting to hear from someone like yourself who is experiencing something so different from what I feel.

I hope you find what it is you need OP 💐

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