Decision making

[Applecottage1234]

I cannot make decisions
Big ones or small ones - I feel like it’s ruining my life

I have to rely on my husband to make every decision.
I over analyse everything- bullet point everything that can go wrong so end up not buying or doing anything.

Even simple things like buying a sandwich

Is this a mental health problem?

I’ve been invited to meet at the park tomorrow and I’m already stressing about whether I should go or not.

• it could rain so I can’t decide what to wear
• I might not find parking
• I could loose my phone or purse at the park (no idea why I’m worried about this)
• what if I need the loo and there’s no toilets
• what if my daughter misbehaves
• what if I get hungry or thirsty

So what if it rains!? You will just get wet. So what if DD misbehaves?!
Rather than missing out on a fun day out just go. Prep yourself with a rain coat, pockets and bag to hold the things you may need for the day.

Go a few minutes earlier to find a parking spot. Apologise if you may be late to ur friend!! Have fun!!

To answer your question, I think if it is causing you problems with everyday life, then yes, it is a problem. It sounds as though you are generally quite anxious. Are you looking to get some help with this?

Sounds like you suffer from severe anxiety and possibly intrusive thoughts. I would definitely recommend talking to a doctor.
You seem to be catastrophizing (not sure if that’s even a word) almost everything, it’s quite normal though for people who suffer from various mental health struggles.

How are you when you’re actually in these situations, are your thoughts focusing on the what if’s or are you able to switch off and enjoy the social side.

My partner gets stressed with my lack of decision making but mines isn’t really that I can’t decide it’s more if I’m not really bothered.

I used to be quite similar in the sense where I cared about my decisions and really struggled and always needed guidance. I suffer with anxiety and a lot of the time the what if’s do get really stressful.

I’m working on building my confidence which has helped the decision making process and reassured me that I’m always making the best decision. Maybe try some relaxing and productive activities, going for a quiet walk, the gym, knitting, diamond art (my new favourite) do something creative, paint, draw.