How to change for the better

[Tulip368]

I've finally noticed a few negative patterns in my marriage which are really my fault/ based in my upbringing. Any advice on how to change for the better? I can sometimes be easily annoyed by minor things and I'd really like to stop it. My marriage is very happy, I just want it to be better

Sorry your feeling this way, but it’s good to acknowledge your triggers. Some suggestions to help are to journal your feelings, reflecting on your past too. Just like counselling, but from yourself. Being better usually stems from reflection and self awareness.

I hate self help books, but I really enjoyed ‘the book you wish your parents had read’ it’s all about conflict resolution, self awareness and acknowledgment of past history. Give it a go!

Plus, in a relationship, communication is key, so talk to your partner about your feelings and what you need. Also acknowledge your issues and discuss how you can work together to overcome.

None of us are perfect. You just need to figure out what helps you grow as a person.

If you can, try counselling, it’s actually a great way to start.

Thanks for your encouraging reply @Snorkello

I've got a journal which I'll actually start using. It's just trying to stop the extreme annoyance in its tracks as it's a bad habit I've started and probably picked up

I've done counselling in the past which I found hugely helpful, I'll go through my notes from it to try and refresh the work as I'm not sure if I have the time at the moment