I was married and when I was 36 weeks pregnant I found out my husband was having an affair. This was back in 2017. We are since divorced (separated when baby was 3 months old) and have our own houses and joint custody. It was a long time ago but I feel like I have never really gotten over it. Some days the pain and anxiety is the same as the first week after finding out. I never had to face her too much initially but she has recently moved into his house and now I see her every so often. I get incredibly anxious about it. It’s like I’m back at square one. And I have out bursts of anger/rage and feelings of frustration at the injustice of it all too. I feel like the only way I can move forward is if she leaves him. Not so we can get back together- but just so she is out the picture. I hate the thought of her being with my daughter. Anyone but her. I’m tied to them both now and don’t know how to cope. It’s nearly 5 years since and I can’t see it getting any easier. Has anyone any advice?? I am on the waiting list for CBT but it isn’t happening any time soon. X