Where do you stand on photos of yourself online?

[Chasingyourtail]

My mum takes tonnes of photos. Me and my little boy see her a couple of times a week and I love all the photos she takes of him.

However she often also takes photos of me and puts them on social media. I am currently recovering from an eating disorder and am still trying to maintain a healthy relationship with food. I've put on a lot of weight and still find that quite hard to come to terms with when I see photos of myself. I try my best to tell myself it doesn't matter and I am being vain but seeing her latest update has absolutely ruined my day and triggered lots of old thoughts I haven't had in a long time. I really feel like bingeing on sugary treats and engaging in other unhelpful activities.

I've asked my mum to remove photos I don't like in the past and this often ends in arguments. She says I'm being silly. I've asked this morning and have been ignored.

What are your feelings on this? How do you feel when photos of you are posted online without permission? Am I being too sensitive?

No. You are not being too sensitive. Your mother is old enough to have more sense. Tell her you and your child are private citizens with a right to a quiet life and no intrusion of this sort. Be firm and strong. I am with you. I would hate photos of me on public view.
Take care and thinking of you.

Just ask her not to post photos of you and your son on SM at all. I never post photos of the kids or myself on SM. It's unreasonable of her to continue to do so after you've asked her not to.

No, it doesn't matter what your reason is. If you have asked someone to take down a photo of you they should.

She has absolutely no right to post pictures of you or your child if you have asked her not to.
I would refuse to let her take more photos or get her to take them on your phone for you to keep.
I would report the pictures and ask for them to be removed if she won't take them off.

I think short term you should just block/unfollow her on social media so you can't see what she's posting of you

@Youlittlerascal

No. You are not being too sensitive. Your mother is old enough to have more sense. Tell her you and your child are private citizens with a right to a quiet life and no intrusion of this sort. Be firm and strong. I am with you. I would hate photos of me on public view. Take care and thinking of you.

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