So low … what’s wrong with me?

[Bluebirdofparadise]

I will include any information I think could be relevant. I am 41. I had covid a month ago. I have a fifteen month old child, am a teacher and so, so fed up.

My day is just packed full. From waking it’s just a mad charge around - getting myself and DC ready and to nursery, then to school and teaching all day (some of my classes are very demanding) and then pick up from nursery.

Someone else’s thread yesterday resonated with me, I have a DH WFH and between 430 to around 6 it all falls on me, keeping DC entertained and stopping him going in and disturbing DH, which makes him tantrum. It’s really draining me, and our house set up is so impractical. DH insists on working in the dining room, and I hate it - it’s like having a constant audience. He comments on everything I do and sometimes I don’t know if he means it critically or not. I suspect some comments are meant critically but I’ve become hyper sensitive to them so probably take some critically when that’s not the intent.

I’m so bloody TIRED all the time. Last night DC only woke once and I was asleep by 9 but I’m still tired. I also have a permanent sore throat and just this fog of tiredness all of the time.

I know I need to look after myself more. I’m not eating well or getting enough (or any) exercise, am gaining weight. Just no motivation or enthusiasm for anything.

• DH WFH and between 430 to around 6 it all falls on me, keeping DC entertained and stopping him going in and disturbing DH- This is SO unfair on you. Is there anywhere else he can work? Or an outbuilding that could be converted to office space? I know that takes time and money… Can he go back to the office? Or work later when DC is asleep?

Do you both work full time? Why does everything fall to you?

I can totally relate to being sensitive and irritable and to DH taking over when wfh! How about one night a week you arrange to so something for yourself , maybe start with a walk , an exercise class, or meet a friend. Anything to be out of the house and have some ‘you’ time. You will feel a bit refreshed and also DH will have to hold the fort . maybe it will help him realise how much you do . It needs to become a bit more equal otherwise you could end up feeling resentful and burnt out.

Unfortunately I can’t really do something for me as I have to get DS before 530. He’s in nursery long enough to be honest. I think that’s what makes me so low, there’s just no solution to any of this.