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Haunted

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charlsains · 28/03/2022 23:11

Does anyone feel haunted when they think back to their initial breakdown?
2019 was the one. Husband , daughter and I moved home quickly due to a family dispute which left us in bits. (We lived with MIL hoping to buy her home)

Then i felt out with my dad, because my sister mentioned how our childhood was and he to this day denied it & we knew we couldn't have a relationship with him.

And then a few months after that i had a misscarraige on my 30th birthday. After years of secondary infertility.

Downhill from there... my behaviour and mental health so bad, OCD became a living hell. Coping with infertility was too much to handle. I convinced myself i was pregnant some months later not knowing i was actually very poorly (later diagnosed with pregnancy ocd) i worked on a maternity ward, nurse did my bloods because i was all "im pregnant im sure!"
Of course it came back negative. I remember being in denial, crumbling to the floor in the middle of labour ward of all places and feeling absolute grief. I drove myself home and it was about a 30 min drive. I screamed... really screamed so much of that drive away. I cried, i punched my stomach, i was shouting at myself and i was speeding hoping to just hit something and die. That was the start of my breakdown, my big fat painful breakdown . And though i am so much better now, medicated, had cbt, different life, now home new town.... im sat here thinking about that drive because i am having the same symptoms i had that made me think i was pregnant that time.

It is painful, isn't it? Its almost like watching myself go through that drive and i can feel the pain of that woman even now. Not a soul knows how painful that was. I guess its like flashbacks? Idk

Im thankful if you read this.

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Notsandwiches · 28/03/2022 23:18

Sometimes life is just so so hard isn't it and having a number of hard things tips us over the edge. I don't have any advice but wanted to let you know I understand.

charlsains · 28/03/2022 23:31

@Notsandwiches

Sometimes life is just so so hard isn't it and having a number of hard things tips us over the edge. I don't have any advice but wanted to let you know I understand.
It really is. And i think only when you look back like this you realise how tired you are and how difficult just living is. Doesn't end. Thank you so much lovely xx
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floppybit · 28/03/2022 23:34

Yes, like you there's a drive I think back to, plus a couple of other times, and it's so vivid I can taste and smell it. I know that sounds weird

LifesABotch · 28/03/2022 23:42

Sounds like you had such an awful time. Just wanted to say that I also understand that feeling of thinking back to a time (or times) when you were particularly unwell, and being upset and unsettled by it. Haunted is an appropriate word. Hope you are ok Thanks

coffeeisthebest · 29/03/2022 10:00

Yes I get this too. I remember living a reality that felt so real to me at the time, and still have moments when I could believe it again, like you have said. I suppose we have to find a way to come to terms with those past moments and accept that we were doing what we could in that moment. That's all any of us can do. So in that moment I believed so strongly in my thoughts (that weren't real) and I suppose one way I look at it now is to try and question very rigid thoughts I have now. It is so hard but I wonder if it's a process of beginning to question our minds, rather than believe them 100%.

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