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Banana6715 · 21/03/2022 20:52

Just want some advice. Mum passed away several years ago. Father has a chronic pain condition... He's had it for 3 years. I have got a son- 2 years old. Even whilst I was pregnant my dad was suicidal... He's had several suicidal attempts since my son was only days old. My mental health is now shot... I can't cope any longer. There's days where I just want to end it all. I spend all my time trying to help, support, distract my Dad... I have no time to organise any me time- haven't done anything with any friends, husband etc for well over 2 years. We also don't ever have time as a 3. Whilst also trying to raise my son and be the best wife. I see my Dad cry and spend days in bed and I just can't cope. I don't really know what I want from this post. I just wanted to describe. I work part time- 16 hours... It's my only release. Im in a customer service role and just have to smile and get on with it. This morning my stepmum was vile to me... Arguing and I said that I couldn't cope anymore and would not come anymore. This prompted another suicidal episode from my dad this afternoon - I then felt so guilty and apologised and reassured my dad this would simply not happen as I said it was just a heat of the moment comment because I am so tired and I am constantly on the edge.
He has been admitted and dealt with crisis team regularly but its useless as resources are so streched. I don't know what I wanted from this post... Just is it me- do I just need to pull myself together. I can't cooe with the relentlessness of everything.

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coffeeisthebest · 22/03/2022 09:42

That is a lot OP. You need to step away, no wonder your mental health is struggling too. Your Dad is trying to put the blame for his suicidal thoughts on to you. You need to stop accepting that blame. They are his own thoughts, tied up in his own thought processed. You need to make sure you are exceptionally clear on this. You are not responsible for your Dad's thoughts or actions. The fact that you feel you are makes me want to urge you to seek therapy for yourself. No matter what path your Dad chooses going forward, it is his own. Your mental health is your responsibility and you need to focus on you for yourself and for your child. I wish you all the best. Please extract yourself.

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