right on the edge...

[ruthmollymummy]

It's been three weeks since starting fluoxetine for PND but as yet no difference. The thing is I feel like i'm right on the edge of giving up and telling dh he'll have to look after dd because I'm going to stay in bed all day every day for the rest of my life.
Holding onto sanity for dear life but i just don't know how much longer my sense of responisbility will win over my desire to curl up in a ball.
is it just me? would it make me a terrible person? can i just tell people thats how i feel and ask for help babysitting etc? do i want people to know?

Hold on . It can take 4-6 weeks for the Fluoxetine to kick in.

Definitely ask for help. I believe the burden of responsibility you are experiencing will lift if you let others know how you feel. Especially DP.

Thank you notnow. I just read my post back and tried to imagine i was giving advice to someone else and i think i agree. it's just getting the bottle to tell people, how do you start a conversation like that, "by the way..."

It must be a difficult thing to do.

Could you start by just being honest, but in a simplistic way?

People often ask how we are, don't they, in an informal way (eg "Hi, how are you doing?"). Generally, we tend to answer "Yeah, good thanks", even if we're not

So could you give the honest answer instead?

"Well, to be honest, I don't feel great atm. Am feeling quite low... I saw my Dr about it..."

This should lead to an open discussion about it, enabling those close to you (who you want involved) to help and support you.

Really feel for you with this. I had pnd after my first baby and I fear it has returned now 9 months after dd was born. I feel the exact same way you do, and just want to sleep so I dont have to do anything.
I havent started medication yet as gp says to wait and see (has only been about 2 weeks so far).
Definitely try and speak to someone about it, and yes, ask for help. Its really hard to admit you have this, but as soon as you can tell someone else, part of the burden does lift. Lots of love to you xxx

Gonna get dressed (I know it's 1pm) as have to go to SIL's for Sunday lunch, maybe could confide in her. I'll let you know. Wish me luck and thank you.

Wishing you lots of luck

Let us know how you get on. Even posting here will help, many people here have suffered PND and am sure will share their stories.

I hope you feel better soon.

I have depression too and fully understand the wish to stay in bed ...

I had it before and it does pass, and the anti-D's will helpo but do take time to kick in.

Certainly ask your dh to help as much as he can in teh next few weeks and be kind to yourself. Best advice I got was to take things one day (or even hour if things are that bad) at a time

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Hope your afternoon went ok RMM, and that you were able to chat with your SIL.

Thanks to all who posted, I did speak to SIL this afternoon and it was great - I also spoke to my mum and admitted just how bad it is. up till today I'd been doing the classic "its no big deal" thing. Feel much better about it all now and I don't know why it took me this long to admit to people I'm having a bit of a hard time.

So to anyone else who's feeling the same and keeping it to themselves, dont! let people help, no-one will think any less of you.

That's great, glad you are feeling more positive about things

Glad to hear you are feeling more positive - you have encouraged me to seek help too and I have a docs appointment tomorrow (eek!!)

good luck eucalyptus, i absoloutely dreaded my docs appointment but it was the easiest thing in the world, it really lifted a weight off me to know that I'm not just a crap person.
Just be honest, it's scary i know but its a fantastic step to take. Love to you xx

Thanks rmm

It was a bit scary but you are right I feel so much better now

Had a really good chat with my boss too (doc signed me off work) and he has been great.

Actually looking forward to the next few days

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