Friend with depression. Help

[Nicegirl11]

Hi.

I need help. I’m besides my self.

I have a friend with depression , PTSD. Last time he had a bad episode he cut me off but I kept reaching out and when he finally came around he said that the messages saved him.

He’s now there again. But worse. On suicide watch etc. he has been abandoned by his wife and left with the kids. He says he needs time away to fix himself , that he needs to for his kids, but has asked me not to reach out to him and he will be in touch when he’s ready.

What should I do? It doesn’t feel right not checking in. I’m really upset. I just want to do the right thing , we’ve been friends for 20 years and I just don’t know what I’m meant to do.

Thank you.

Still text but with no expectation of a reply, and make it clear you have no expectation of a reply. Just let him know you’re thinking of him and to keep reminding him that you’re there when he’s ready to reconnect

Sorry does he have the children or do you mean his wife took the children with him?
If the children are safe then I think the advice above is good advice

The children are with him. She rinsed the bank account and left.

We’ve been chatting all week, but he’s now decided he has to cut everyone off to get better, has said he won’t block me but has asked me not to check in. I have a lot of care for him, he’s a really long standing friend. I don’t want him to think I’m just cutting him off even though he has asked me to not contact him. I feel like I should drop in but also don’t want to get blocked . It’s so difficult.

What do you mean when you say he is on suicide watch? Who is watching him and why does he have his kids with him in this situation?

He can’t be alone with children if he’s on suicide watch?!

His wife left him with them. Ran off to Scotland and left him with them

You might want to contact social service then as he needs support.