Being a stay at home mum is lonely

[MumOfTeenAndToddler]

I have a teenager and toddler, my husband works on the business we started together but after having second child, Covid and lockdowns I have taken a step back.
I'm now starting to feel very lonely, isolated as I have grown apart from everyone I use to know, also I live in a small village where I don't know anyone and it's very clicky! Any advice?

Are there toddler groups near you? That's where I met other mums.

Do you attend a local soft play? Or any baby swimming classes. I guess you could look into part time work OP too.

Any playgroups or such like in the village ?
Also you need to do something for you, like the gym etc.

I feel like it's been so long since I socialised with anyone since Covid so it's a bit scary I have tried looking for things in my area but there is just not a lot of support here and also planing on moving soon to yet again another village that I have no connections with but there is a lot more for toddlers and mums but I'm not sure how long it's going to take to get the move!

How far away is the other village? It might be worth travelling now to the groups etc if not too far, and then you’ll already know people by the time you move.

Have you considered going back to work?

The village I live in is more of a holiday village so there is not a lot here apart from the beach..

I was in this situation, and I'd advise hosting people. Anyone nice you can find, basically. A lonely old lady for a cup of tea, a neighbour, a disabled person who's at home during the day... Local churches are a good bet to find people. Keep inviting people even though it feels awkward at first. I was desperate enough to do this with two babies at home, because it was that or go stir crazy. Made lots of friendly acquaintances, the little ones got some social education, and it got me through. You have to get over the self consciousness about your home/teen, and you have to bear in mind that people are just delighted to have a change of scene.

I would love to go back to work! I do an odd day here and there but having no supportive family on either side and very few nursery's in my area it's a bit difficult! I feel a bit stuck at this point in time! I also don't drive!

@MumOfTeenAndToddler learn to drive as a priority. If you live in an isolated village this is essential for you to get out and about. The challenge will also give you something to aim for. It'll give you great independence. If you're nervous, you could learn in an automatic and get a little run around.
It's awfully lonely. I am also lonely on maternity leave but know I've got something to go back to. I could never be a stay at home parent.

@thingymaboob
I am doing my driving but there is a bit of a waiting list! I'm the same I didn't want to be a stay at home mum! I love being out there meeting people and being social but since having my second child within a month the country went into lockdown I had no support from anyone I was alone with a new born having to home school my oldest it was hard and now I'm finding it hard to get out there again! It's scary I know it sounds sad and I also know I wasn't the only person in that situation but I felt like it.