Too soon

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Please can someone advise. I am
super stressed and not feeling well at all.

I was off work for three months with poor mental health and I have been feeling very poorly. Felt pressured to go back to my
PT job and I went back last
Monday.

I'm on a phased return but I feel it was too soon. I'm worrying. I still feel unwell and my treatment has only really just started. I have three children and two of them are currently off school unwell.

My husband works very long hours so childcare falls on me.

My Dr didn't want me to go back so soon and didn't think that I was ready for it. I said I thought I was and now I know I'm not. To be honest, I'm not sure I even can take the stress of a job at the moment.

Please please can someone advise me please. What do you think I should do?

I feel really stressed and this is not good for my mental health one bit.

Sounds like you’re not ready at all. It’s not going to help you get better, is it? Phone in today and start your leave again, if you can take the financial hit.
Is the mental health difficulty caused by your work? Can any changes be made? Reduction in hours, workload? Clarity of job description? Reduction in responsibilities? Change of team?

Thank you for your reply. I just feel so guilty if I was to take more time off but I know I am not up for working right now. I'm still in probation period and only started the role last August before going off sick in November.
I feel very sad today and keep bursting into tears and it's still so early.
They won't be able to change my hours - it's a phased return and they were already a bit off with that as it's the needs of the business in that they need me back doing my usual hours.
I just feel so stressed.

It sounds like you really need to focus on what’s right with you and try not to let feeling guilty alter that. I know it’s not easy as I’ve been in a similar situation as you. I left my job 2 years ago and haven’t worked since. I know not everyone can do that but you need to help yourself recover before you can help everyone else, ie looking after your children, doing your job well. Your gp thought you were going back too soon so I’m sure they’d extend your sick leave again, take care

Thank you. I am really worried to have the chat, especially as I've only just gone back. I am so not ready and feel really unwell today.

What's the treatment you have just started?

Try to remember that your boss will go home and forget all about what’s happening with you so try not to worry about what your boss thinks. He/she isn’t living with what you’re living with and that you’re the most important person in your world, not your boss.
Take care xx

@GirlInACountrySong

What's the treatment you have just started?

Intensive therapy with a psychologist and also new medication

@July56

Try to remember that your boss will go home and forget all about what’s happening with you so try not to worry about what your boss thinks. He/she isn’t living with what you’re living with and that you’re the most important person in your world, not your boss. Take care xx

Thank you so much.

I am really worried about having the conversation with him but need to do it. I really don't feel very well.

I hope you are okay, take care too xx