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Is my anxiety making me a bad mum?

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theautumnalmanac · 27/02/2022 10:49

When I was halfway through my pregnancy I was introduced to some other pregnant women all around the same stage. It was lovely and while we were on maternity leave we used to meet up for walks and coffees.

I'm quite introverted and found the fewer of us who turned up, the better. I much preferred the one on one time.

Our babies are all around the 18 month mark now and we no longer see each other as much due to work. We finally organised something for today. We're going to one of the mum's houses for some afternoon tea. I am the only one who works Saturday so they've made it a Sunday especially. (I did say I really don't want to make things difficult and can sit this one out if Saturday is best but they wouldnt hear of it).

I was excited when we first made the plan but over to the last few days I have been dreading it. I can't even put my finger on what exactly I'm dreading, I just picture the whole thing and find it daunting. As much as I try to get over myself, involve my shy son in activities with others, he barely seems to benefit either. It's like he can sense my anxiety.

Would it be the best thing for us to go even when I feel like this?

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Mamamia7962 · 27/02/2022 11:12

Yes, definitely go you will feel so much better for it. When you are picturing it in your mind what scene are you imagining exactly? That will help you to see what it is that you are anxious about.

MissMaple82 · 27/02/2022 21:16

How did it go OP?

theautumnalmanac · 27/02/2022 22:08

I went and am mostly glad I did if only to do something out of my comfort zone. They're lovely people but occasionally a little snobby which I absolutely cannot tolerate. My little boy cried a lot when he got there but settled down when he realised I was staying!

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