To not know where to for help now?

[missbipolar]

So I've been sectioned twice in the last 12 months. Still struggling with suicidal thoughts to the point of making plans. I've tried the crisis line (unhelpful) tried shout who called the police on me, and spoke to my cpn who advised attending A&E if I couldn't keep myself safe. I just want someone to talk to, to keep me from following through but there seems to be very little actual practical support. So aibu to think the support for people with suicidal thoughts isn't actually that great?

I don’t have any experience at all with MH services but could you call the Samaritans now? Is there anyone you could call to come and be with you tonight?

I'm currently waiting for the police to do a welfare check (called by shout) I have no support in this country

My dh took me to A&E

I've been there, very recently actually, I wrote a thread about a month ago feeling suicidal and MN contacted the police for a welfare check. The out come of this actually put in motion a lot of support and I managed to stay home.

I found the same when I was in that place, needed someone to listen and actually say "do you know what, yeah that is shit, life sucks". And proper support. Do you have any help from adult social services?

Could you call any friends or family in other countries while you wait for the police? Would you consider going to a&e this evening?

I've never found A&E to be all that helpful although I suspect the police will want me to go. I have no support from adult social care although several referrals have been made.

No I have never found A&E helpful either. It always made me feel worse and so lonely.

I was waiting ages for adult social services I've now been assigned a social worker after the police visit.

Do you have children?

No advice. Just hope you're ok. Please know that you are important. You are worth life. Please take care.

I've found there really is no support. A so called urgent referral to psychology took 3 months and I never did get any therapy through the NHS.

I ended up paying privately to see a therapist and he is basically my support system. I'd be dead without him by now.

My family either don't believe in mental health and think its all attention seeking or overreact and panic and cry so that I end up trying to comfort them.

I have 2 but they don't live with me anymore.

I find that A&E don't know how to deal with me and end up just discharging regardless of what I say, or the overeact and put me on 5.2.

I've been told I'm not stable enough for therapy but need therapy to get stable 🙄

Hello OP, we are really sorry to hear you are feeling this way.
We hope you don't mind, but when these threads are flagged up to us we usually add a link to our Mental Health resources. You can also go to the Samaritans website or email them on [email protected]. Support from other Mumsnetters is great and we really hope you will be able to take some comfort from your fellow posters, but as other MNers will tell you, it's really a good idea to seek real-life help and support as well.

We also like to remind everyone that, although we're awed daily by the astonishing support our members give each other through life's trickier twists and turns, we'd always caution anyone never to give more of themselves to another poster, emotionally or financially, than they can afford to spare.

Some further support links:

NHS: Where to get urgent help for mental health
NHS: Looking after your mental health
MIND: Coping with mental health problems during coronavirus

CALM: The Campaign Against Living Miserably
NHS: Help for suicidal thoughts

Very best wishes from MNHQ and we're going to move this to our Mental Health topic now.

If you’re UK based, a few numbers to try below if just looking to talk/for someone to listen you whilst in crisis.

Samaritans 116123 (free number, 24 hour service)

National Suicide Prevention Helpline UK. Offers a supportive listening service to anyone with thoughts of suicide. You can call the National Suicide Prevention Helpline UK on 0800 689 5652 (open 24/7).

Campaign Against Living Miserably (CALM). You can call the CALM on 0800 58 58 58 (5pm–midnight every day) if you are struggling and need to talk. Or if you prefer not to speak on the phone, you could try the CALM webchat service.

@missbipolar

I've been told I'm not stable enough for therapy but need therapy to get stable 🙄

I was told the exact same thing!

And I was too unwell to do yet another fucking anxiety workbooklet. So they discharged me for not engaging!!

How about your local Mind? Ours has support groups and other offers to help with benefits and practical stuff.

I have found SHOUT quite useful, when I'm not waiting for a response for 3 hrs

I got that too. Need to get you stable enough that you can take a bit of pain, they said. Then you can do counselling.

Funnily enough I stabilised quite quickly after starting with a private therapist. That therapist got me back on a relatively even keel without causing me pain. They're just making excuses.