Is anyone else married to a narcissist?

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My husband is actually a complete narcissist. It took me years to realise but when I realised it hit me so hard like how did I not clock this sooner! Everything he does or says fits the description of someone with a full blown narcissistic personality disorder. I literally cannot stand him or even being around him but the only reason I haven't up and left is because our daughter is really attached to both of us.

Is anyone else in a similar situation or have been but pulled up the courage to get out of it?

Being married to him is soul destroying it brings out the worst in me and I'm already an anxious / depressed person. He has this amazingly clever way of provoking me to make me explode whilst himself staying completley calm then pointing out I'm "rude" "disrespectful" and "ungrateful". Anyone else who knows me always says how caring and kind I am but when I'm around him I actually feel like a horrible person.

Could really do with someone to talk to xx

Hi there, couldn’t read and run. I’m sorry, this sounds so demoralising - I think you really need someone in RL to discuss this with because it’s not going to go away, so you need practical and possibly financial advice on leaving.
I believe I have a narcissistic relative who I love dearly but I can see that being their partner would destroy someone. I don’t think he’s capable of what it needs to have a worthwhile relationship.

You need to separate for your mental health and also for that of your daughter - or she’ll spend her young life trying to earn his love which he won’t be able to give.