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I am struggling and just don’t know what to do 😢

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elle0305 · 09/02/2022 23:31

I am really struggling both physically and mentally at the moment, and don’t know what to do. I have always struggled with anxiety since I was 4 years old thanks to living with an alcoholic stepdad who abused my mum and brought police into our house for over 10 years. I’ve also struggled with health anxiety since my child was born 3 years ago, which after giving birth I developed a mysterious chest/breathing issue which I’ve been told is probably costochondritis, but due to covid I’ve never had an official diagnosis. This only got worse during the pandemic, but ever since my second child was born 4 months ago it has been so much worse, and I have been both physically and mentally exhausted with anxiety, and it is affecting every aspect of my life. My marriage is at an all time low, my husband works hard and is the sole earner, and he brings his work stresses home which just adds further stress and misery to my life. He tries to be understanding of my mental health, but a lot of the time he doesn’t understand and it causes further arguments, and then it feels like everything becomes a competition of who is more stressed/tired/does housework etc. I feel like I am loosing my mind, and am finding myself in tears every day. I wouldn’t even know where to start with speaking to someone, and in all honesty I don’t think it would even help, I have tried an online CBT and found the whole concept unhelpful for me. Has anyone else been in a similar boat and come out of the other side?

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MinnieJackson · 09/02/2022 23:45

Flowers I think you should start with your gp and see what advice they can give you. I've suffered / suffer from depression but I don't really have any advice. Talking to someone helps. Do you have anyone besides your partner?

elle0305 · 10/02/2022 00:13

No not really. I moved about an hour away from where I grew up for a fresh start, and I am not close with any of them except my grandparents, who are both in their 70s with deteriorating health, there is no way I would ever speak to them about this unfortunately 😖

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MinnieJackson · 10/02/2022 07:34

Could you visit your grandparents? I bet it would be a nice boost to see them. I wish I had more advice to give you, I'm bad at this. Feel free to chat on here, it could be easier online. Can you think of any advice you'd give a friend or your children in the same position? I remember when my kids were small and it was so hard with the anxiety (I've also suffered from childhood) but I was incredibly lucky to have an amazing support network. You're doing this alone, I can't tell you how admirable that is to me Flowers

FabriqueBelgique · 10/02/2022 07:58

You need to get a handle on your anxiety. Look up Richard Grannon “5 finger mnemonic” on YouTube. It sounds wack, but it was the thing that completely flicked a switched my brain after a lifetime of anxiety and crying.

I hope it helps you like it did me, if you give it a go.

Once you get a handle on your mental health, you’ll have a clearer picture of your life.

morningstruggles · 10/02/2022 08:15

OP have you thought about medication? Don't be scared of reaching out to your GP... medication can be absolutely life changing for mental health... even if used temporarily to help get you back on your feet Thanks

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