Please help? TW - bereavement

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Please help me. I feel broken and unable to cope with basic functions of living at the moment. To be clear - I have no intention of self harm. I want to feel better and more like me again.

I lost my lovely mum 4 years ago. I have largely “got on with things” since then. My lovely dad is in his 80’s and is getting frail now and I can’t cope with the thought of him not being here. He drives me crazy at times but he is wonderful to me and my DD. I have no siblings.

I haven’t settled workwise since my mum died, but have recently got a new job which I am hopeful will enable me to settle and “breathe”. However this is a full time job and my dad has recently been poorly. I have been taking him to appts and getting meds and so forth, plus working, running my home, looking after DD etc. I feel like I am struggling to cope with the most basic things. Add in peri menopause, low vitamin D; and a clueless DP and I am at a loss as to where to go from here. I am going to look at bereavement counselling. What else can I do from a practical point of view?

Anyone?

Hello I'm not sure I have much advice but I didn't want to read and run. I'm so sorry for the loss of your mum. It sounds to me like you've had and still have a huge amount going on and you're doing an amazing job of trying to keep everything and everyone together. And well done on the job, it sounds great. But you really need some support.

Counselling sounds like a good idea. I think you can self refer to Talking Therapies but it can be a long wait. And Cruse are good for bereavement counselling. Do you have a good GP? I know it's hard to see anyone face-to-face these days but I feel like a good GP would listen to you if you told them what you said here, and maybe see if there's anything that might help medically, but also signpost or refer you to other services.

It sounds like your partner needs to step up and support you too. What happens when you talk to them about how you feel? Running the house and looking after your daughter are not only your responsibility!

I hope someone with more advice will come by, but I'm sending you hugs.

Thank you cadentiasidera. My DP doesn’t live with us. He’s a separate thread entirely as he is a complete workaholic. I have referred myself to some talking therapies and I am hopefully going to phone Cruse later today.

Well done for reaching out - on here and to talking therapies etc. Did you manage to phone Cruse? I hope you can get some help soon.