Possible child abuse

[Puglife123]

Possibly triggering **

Unsure if this is right place to put this thread if not can it be moved to the appropriate possibly triggering I’m on my phone so sorry if any typos , when I was pregnant with my son my doctor for whatever reason I can’t remember now was looking for something from when I was younger and came across I had anal warts and also on vulva and labia area this started from 16 months until I was over three they said it got worse and worse then eventually I had surgery a diathermy after all other routes were exhausted … I only know these due to requesting notes Years later as I experienced abuse and trauma between relationships between the age of 16-27 but theirs gaps in my childhood I can’t account for and I don’t have great relationship with my mother as she had me young and I was often left in other peoples care … I have approached social work etc as the doctor couldn’t confirm nor deney if the genital warts could have been an sti or from somewhere else it was more concerning in the notes how their was gaps where I was and how the doctors kept treating it with various creams and so on I was only 16 months and then at just over 3 they performed surgery I didn’t know any of this until little over a year ago … don’t know what I’m looking for or just looking to vent as I know no one here can give me answers just wondered if possible to get perianal and warts on vulva etc without it being from sexual abuse

Take care
Thanks again

I didn’t want to leave this unanswered
Google implies can be caught from the mother before and during birth or from shared use of towels with someone who has it/during nappy changes with someone with active infection and unwashed hands

Was it your mum who took you for treatment?

Can you access some sort of counselling?

A friends sibling had similar memory blanks and did eventually discover what happened trauma wise to cause them and has been unable to function properly as an adult whilst my friend chose to leave the blanks for that reason

Wishing you well 💐

Thank you yeah on the notes it said my mum took me to doctor but I was also staying with my mums boyfriend for periods of time without her she would go missing for weeks at a time this was before she met my step dad and my paternal father remembers more or less barging into this said boyfriends house to get me as I was just in a room alone while parties had gone on , yeah I had read it could be passed that way was just the fact it kept getting worse even with constant treatment then the needing the surgery especially at being such a young age me and my mum are not close hence why I can’t just ask her that’s why Iv had to request notes and do some digging as although I experienced trauma in bad relationships from a young age theirs said gaps in my childhood that I can’t account for … thank you for replying I really appreciate that I’m actually seeing a mental health nurse weekly and her and the team said I’m not yet ready to go into counselling they think at the moment it could trigger me and make me worse I suffer very bad night terrors my poor fiance but I’m waiting until I’m apparently ready I understand where they are coming from but it’s getting to the point where I’m thinking is anyone ever ready . Thank you again for your message

Take care xx

Hopefully the mh nurse will be able to support you through this and working out what you want to find out and get you some support
Bottom line is, it may just have been neglect or cross infection as opposed to abuse

hugs