Help - my husband is unraveling in front of my eyes due to a cancer diagnosis (serious but not stage 4 or terminal). He has always suffered from MH issues but has coped with them/learned to live with them. But this has tipped him over the edge. he is barely sleeping, goes into this sort of fugue state, constantly tells me he is to blame for the cancer because of things he did or didn't do in his life and is basically inconsolable.
I am not coping well - never very good with MH stuff as I am a very rational person and have (fortunately) avoided clinical anxiety/depression myself so I find some of what he is displaying baffling and my empathy is also draining away - please don't flame me but I have shouted at him and told him he needs to get his shit together as we have DC and I can't hold the whole shooting match together. But I know this is completely the wrong thing to do, won't help and now I feel scared and guilty for not managing and for getting frustrated and angry with him.
I am really scared as I have no idea how to help him and i am now seriously worried about him. He did talk to the GP about getting anti-depressants but every time I ask if he has picked up the prescription, he is elusive. Can I contact the GP my self and tell them I am worried?
Any advice or help out there?