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Feeling wobbly after an incident

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IHopeYouStepOnALegPiece · 15/01/2022 10:46

Not sure this is the right place but not sure where else to put it.

I had a thread here but long and short of it, On Thursday I was walking through a park and pulled to the ground, person was then spooked by a jogger and ran off.

I don’t know if the intention was to mug me or something else, I feel like it was something else because of how I was pulled to the ground but I could be wrong and I’m not sure my brain wants to process that.

I was a bit wobbly that evening and Friday morning but Yesterday afternoon after I had to give a second statement to the police, I feel like it’s hit me like a lorry. I’m v teary, feel v vulnerable and basically just want a really big hug and someone to look after me (but have no one to do that!).

I was sexually assaulted when I was 17 and had recently started therapy to deal with it but had to stop because I couldn’t afford it so I feel like I’ve cracked it open a bit, not dealt with it then this has happened.

It feels silly because nothing actually happened, not really but I can’t get past the what if. Is this normal? To be this affected when nothing actually happened

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Sarahlou63 · 15/01/2022 13:53

I haven't read the other thread but based on your description here I'm not surprised you're feeling wobbly - it's completely normal.

To stop it becoming overwhelming, use the same imagination that is projecting a negative 'what if' to change the narrative.
So "What if I'd used the heel of my hand to break his nose?" "What if I'd rolled away and screamed at him to fuck off?"

Whatever you imagine, make it real - see the blood, hear the scream. Make yourself the victor and him the victim.

Hope you get a RL hug - in the meantime have some Flowers

IHopeYouStepOnALegPiece · 15/01/2022 14:46

Thank you Flowers

I’m big on the whole “you’re allowed to have these feelings” when talking to others but with this situation I feel silly because nothing happened, the outcome is the same as if I tripped over iygwim but it feels horrid

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JaneJeffer · 15/01/2022 20:21

You're bound to feel awful after a shock like that. Have a good cry or scream if you need to.

I posted here before about a thing I read where you can replicate the feel of a hug by standing in a corner with your back to the wall and wrapping your arms around yourself.

Take care Thanks

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