Feel that DH resents me - MH

[Orangesandlemons77]

I get PIP and ESA, also have a physical condition as well as MH.

He's self employed and works quite long hours.

I just feel that he resents me and my health problems, I don't complain and try to contribute financially as well as with the house stuff.

We've paid off the mortgage so not much in outgoings anyway.

I just wondered if others understood, and if I could manage to help him understand.

What makes you feel he resents you?

@Sarahlou63

What makes you feel he resents you?

Sometimes he makes comments mainly about him working and me not- things like 'so you're doing nothing again today' 'it's not fair I'm going out to work and you aren't' that sort of thing.

He's also a bit funny about me taking tablets for my conditions as well. Not really sure why.

Oh, maybe I'm wrong and just taking things personally. I'm not sure. He does get quite moody anyway.

I guess the only way you're going to find out is to ask him. You could say that you feel bad that your disabilities mean that not able to match his contribution to the household and what does he feel about it?

Is it a money thing? When you say try to contribute financially is that because of little income or you are spending money elsewhere?

I should have said I do contribute financially. I'm not sure really. Maybe I should just talk to him.

I have a serious illness and often feel the same but it is in my head. My low self esteem makes me feel like everyone must hate me, or I am a burden. I can’t say how your DH feels but wanted to say that I understand how hard being disabled or in my case chronically unwell can be and to offer a handhold. Try to practice gratitude and not wallow in what is missing. I’m sure your DH loves you just the way you are

Thanks SandysMam