Feeling lonely with a toddler

[Mollyalice91]

I’ve been feeling really lonely after the Christmas break seeing family and spending lots of quality time with them. I don’t live near my family, they live in the north and I’m in London so I can’t just pop round and have a cup of tea if I’m having a bad day. My daughter attends nursery for 15 hours a week so I have a bit of me time but I can’t help but feel this deep loneliness and a lack of
Motivation to do anything. Anyone else feeling like this?

Hey. Yes, I used to feel like that very often and still do. Are there any groups around that you could attend and connect to others? Sometimes that is all what is needed to feel less lonely. Many of us are raising our kids away from our own families, concentrate on the good times you can have when you meet. It is the connection you feel to them that matters the most not how often you see each other. Also, tiredness can triger feeling lonely. Sometimes we need to rest and excersice in order to feel better :) i guess many people feel that but remember that loneliness is totally dependent on your perception rather than real situation. Gratefulness can help a lot in this matter :)

Going to toddler groups is a good idea - it certainly helped me. I felt lonely when my DD was a baby especially as she cried a lot and didn't sleep much. My family all live far away and I don't really like them anyway. Going to two or three baby/toddler groups a week really helped. I also made friends with a couple of other mums at the playground.

The lack of motivation to do anything is possibly a flag for depression so you might want to talk to your GP too.