What can I do!?

[Chloe221]

Hello
This is my first post so not really sure what to expect so..!

I've been with my partner now for almost a year, we live 40 miles apart but I get the train most weekends to go and see him. Lately I've felt like he's been giving my the cold shoulder and like he's not really interested in seeing me anymore, so I've asked him about it and he said I don't interact with his family as much as he'd like me to. I'm not a confident person by any means but when they speak to me I'll speak back to them and I am polite with them. I try my best but it seems to be a really big problem for him and I love him to bits but I don't know what to do.

I've been suffering lately with what I feel is pretty bad depression (I am on anti d's but don't feel like they do anything to help) and I don't feel like I've had much if any support from him at all. When I was in the hospital a few weeks ago I tried to call him at least 10 times over a few days and not once did he answer or even call back, he just text to say he was really busy.
In myself I feel really sad, I just want to be better for him. Whenever I think about it, it makes me cry. It's making me tear up just thinking about all of this as in typing it. I would even go as far to say as I've just had enough now and don't want to be here anymore so I don't have to feel like this

I just don't know what to do

Sorry you are feeling like this. Its awful. I would personally back off, stop texting him and let him contact you. He's being incredibly rude and dismissive just to ignore your calls.

He's not really a partner. I would also hazard a guess that part of your mental sadness is a direct result of his manner towards you.

Just one example of the imbalance, he is he thinks you should interact with his family more, firstly you are in a relationship, quite a new relationship, with him not his whole family, yet he was too busy to interact with you in hospital.

You do all the travelling, the calling, and it's still not enough.

It's been a year, you've tried, it's not enough apparently for him.

Get well for yourself and dump this dead wood which is holding you back.

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