Relationships and mental health

[user07677]

Hi there, I suffer with severe anxiety and currently it's at the point where I can barely leave the house anymore I'm waiting on seeing a psychiatrist it's just another month wait and I'm really struggling my boyfriend is an absolute rock he loves me so much he will put up with it, we've been together two and half years and I've always had this anxiety just the last few months it's been so severe and I feel it affecting us as he wants to do things and I have to let him down all the time and it's really not fair he's not my carer and I don't know how to get rid of the guilt or make it better right now, I really don't want to loose him over this even though he's not that type of person and has been here through some pretty shitty things but how do I make it better☹️

You can do this OP. It is going to be fine. Absolutely fine.

That’s brilliant that you are getting help from a psychiatrist. In between now and then there are loads of exercises you can do to calm you down in the house and give you enough concentration to have fun with your bf. Google ‘exercises to help anxiety’ and see what works for you.

You can't make it better until you're better. But meanwhile try to maintain a healthy balance within the realms of what you can do.
So don't make him the person you lean on empotionally all the time, turn to other friends and family so he isn't your only source of support.
Bring positive things to him like sharing interesting /funny things you've read about or done, or discuss ideas and have a laugh, then it's not all about the illness or limitations.
Take an interest in him, the outside world and what's going on in other people's lives, so you have the rich variety of an ever changing scene to take your mind off and prevent the focus always being on The Anxiety.
Help other people out when you can, maybe someone needs help with a cv, or can't find time to do xyz but you can, or whatever, then you can keep your self esteem up because you are giving and being useful so then your pride doesn't nosedive which won't help you be an uplifting partner.
Order the food and cook so you can have nice dates...
I think stuff like that...