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clutteredup · 21/12/2007 14:29

I feel a bit fraudulent posting on here as everyone else seems to have a real reason for feeling depressed and I don't seem to have any excuse other than the fact i'm an inadequate mother and my DC are all fighting for my attention and I don't seem to be able to managew to give any of them any.
DD2 has been sleeping badly for some months, Iv'e been doing the controlled crying but its been exhausting. DH is away a lot and more this week for his xmas parties. i'm shattered even though dh came home last night so i went to sleep at 9.30 and didn't wake till 6.45 when ds and dd1 woke up. dd2 actually slept through the night so why do ifeel worse today than i have done before?
sorry this isn't really useful just wanted to talk to someone while dc climb up the walls trying to get my attention, I should be playing with them i just don't have the energy to do anything today.

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CountessDraculaboredofxmasname · 21/12/2007 14:37

Of course you have a real reason! Young children sleeping badly is a reason in itself!

Could you go to bed at the same time as them for a few nights just to get some hours in the bank? Esp if dh is out a lot.

Can you organise some playdates or a babysitter for a few hours so you can get some time to yourself?

KITTYmaspudding · 21/12/2007 14:38

Ah, I feel the same as you atm, so big {{hugs}}.
This time of year is crappy what with being so dark, cold and fulk of bugs.
I also have been up during the night, many times for months now and feel half deranged for lack of sleep and have nothing to give and so feel like a shitty inadequate mother.
It will pass and soon things will be better

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clutteredup · 21/12/2007 14:45

thanks
i am exhausted i just thought i'd feel better today having had some sleep dh will be home at the weekend but he likes to catch up on his sleep at the weekends as he is 'tired too'. some time off would be nice though its just the house is a tip and the washingh pile is taking over my life so i should be doing that.

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clutteredup · 21/12/2007 14:45

hugs to you too kittymas

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CountessDraculaboredofxmasname · 21/12/2007 14:50

Right

Take your ironing to the local ironing place, get them to do it

Let dh have a lie in at the weekend but then when he gets up you go back to bed for a couple of hours. You sound a bit run down too, get some tonic or something from the chemist to give you a bit of a boost maybe?

CountessDraculaboredofxmasname · 21/12/2007 14:51

I always find a double espresso helps too

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clutteredup · 21/12/2007 14:54

Like the idea about the tonic, can i have it with gin won't the ironing thing cost a fortune, how much do they charge. what do you actually mean about tonic?
I've been drinking tae all day without much improvement maybe i should just go for the coffe jar neat. ....gin still seems like a good option but i think its a bit too early.

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clutteredup · 21/12/2007 14:54

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mylovelymonster · 21/12/2007 14:59

Forget the extras piling up in the corners. Make arrangements for dcn and have a soak in the tub/deep condition your hair/ face pack/ paint your nails/ G&T with lemon "&" lime. Have some you time for a change x

WanderingHolly · 21/12/2007 15:01

How much needs ironing?

And a night of good interrupted sleep can leave you feeling shattered, if it's preceded by weeks of broken sleep.

You are exhausted, not a crap mother.

Give the kids a big treat and sit them in front of the tv for waaayyy longer than you normally would.

Have a cup of tea. Or gin.

Controlled crying: with your dh being away a bit, and it being Christmas, is it more exhausting doing this now, than doing what you were doing with your dd2 before? Is it worth putting the cc off till after Christmas?

I'm just trying to think of things to take the pressure off for a bit.

Sorry you're having a crappy time, though.

CountessDraculaboredofxmasname · 21/12/2007 15:05

I don't know how much it costs really I think they do it by weight. I barely iron anything I just sort of smooth it out, or take out of the dryer slightly damp and shake a bit. Ironing = mugs game IMO

Tonic, you know, sort of vitamins/minerals thing, sanatogen or similar.

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clutteredup · 21/12/2007 15:11

thanks a bath sounds nice, i'm trying to avoid too much tv at the moment as when dh is home they seem to watch so much more as he always has it on. mind you at least they are getting something to do,
the ironing needs doing all of it as its all screwed up in a pile now as it comes out crumpled and stays that way. its not even that its just i feel so lacking in energy i know we should go out before it gets dark in about half an hour then at least i'll have 'done something' today.

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clutteredup · 21/12/2007 15:14

right it is getting dark and i have to go to the library so i am gonig to get off my backside and go ...the house is a tip and i know ill feel badwhen i get back but i can let the dc watch tv when we get back and look forward to a nice bath tonight - but i need to clean the bathroom too
sorry i'm just moaning now
thanks for listening

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clutteredup · 21/12/2007 15:14

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WowOoo · 21/12/2007 15:18

I think you are prob feeling as knackered as I am. Ds got measles and I am feeling run down. Felt really blue a few nights ago. Don't drink a whole bottle of wine like I did to help me sleep!!! Alcohol is a depressive Dur!
My house is a bit of a tip too. You have 2 kids - double trouble!. I salute you! X

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clutteredup · 21/12/2007 17:03

Actually WowOoo I have 3! Sorry you're feeling down too, you're right about the alcohol tempting though it is.
I bit the bullet and did get out. I had to otherwise it was going to cost me at the library, it was sort of successful, I let the dc run around a bit outside so they could get some fresh air and exercise with minimum effort on mypart, I even got to the charity shop and bought a whole christmas outfit, shoes and all for £10, abit of reatil therapy helps, probably will be a disaster when I try it on though as i have puton loads of weight recently. Popped into thesupermarket to get some tea, DS knocked all the comics off the shelf but as i was in public at least i didn't scream at him again so that helped
DS and DD1 now in front of a dvd and baby having a nap so can try and clear lunch and tidy up a bit so i feel a bit more human. thanks for the support. don't want to be a christmas killjoy but it is much harder with all the preparations and the dc being so excited, i guess it will be worth it to see their happy little faces at 5am on christmas morning trying not to think of that

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WanderingHolly · 21/12/2007 17:16

WEll done for getting out clutteredup - it's the effort to get up and go that's the most difficult bit, I think.

Give bathroom v quick clean whilst your bath is running. Or clean it when dcs are in the bath.

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