Have come home and immediately depressed

[Alysskea]

Have had lovely week away at my mums and have come home this evening.

It's like the weight of all my responsibilities have come down on me and I'm seeing how messy and unclean bits of my house are, all the bits that need doing. I've been fine for days and now I feel so down.

Anyone find that things can feel worse at home than anywhere else?!

Oh yes.

Definitely. My parents have recently moved to my town so I don't have long stays with them any more, but even when I go round for a few hours I feel so much more relaxed in their house, then when I get back home I feel very down. My house is very cluttered and messy/ needs cleaning whereas theirs is tidy and clean. I feel overwhelmed by everything that needs doing. I'm trying to do something about it this week while I'm off work, yesterday I tackled the bathroom and it's much better, small steps help. But it's hard and motivation is difficult. Sending hugs!

Yes definitely. It’s always at home that I feel that weight. That discomfort

@cadentiasidera well done for taking some steps forward - I'm not there yet but you never know, maybe tomorrow! Doing a bit of wallowing today.

It's comforting to know others feel this way too.

Yes I can relate to this. I don't feel I can properly relax because dcs make an enormous mess (primary school age). I think I've reached a stage where I feel defeated and I've given up (apart from basics of cleanliness). I don't want to spend my life tidying and rather get out of the house and away from it all and I'd rather meet friends away from the house too.

I've lived in this house for more than two decades. It used to feel like a lovely sanctuary. Now I have a small child who makes a mess everywhere, and in recent years our landlords just don't seem to care about the condition of the house any more - we ask them to fix things, they say they will but they never get round to it. This year I became very depressed and when I'm out of the house I feel a little less awful but when we get home my mood plummets.