Please or to access all these features

Mental health

Mumsnet hasn't checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. If you have medical concerns, please seek medical attention.

What’s wrong with me?

4 replies

NewKidOnTheBlock99 · 26/12/2021 18:57

Hello,

So I’ve had this for years but I seem to go in to these really weird headspaces where I feel quite down and my anxiety spirals. Without a doubt the thing that always affects me is my relationships with friends. I start to feel really lonely and like no one cares and I get really negative about it all - despite the fact I could have five unanswered messages sitting there. I can’t stop thinking about the people I’ve messaged and who have not replied. It’s like I can’t see the wood through the trees - I also have a habit of focusing in on one thing and really letting it stress me out. I.e I’m pregnant and made a new mum friend, I sent her a really inane screenshot of something I saw that I thought might be of interest with no questions - just a ‘just came across this on Instagram and thought it might be of interest for you, for that thing you’re doing next week!’ it doesn’t need a reply but it was hours ago and she hasn’t replied and in my head I’m just spiralling. Does she not like me? Is she going to think it’s weird I’ve sent her this on Boxing Day? I can’t explain it fully - but my whole mindset changes and I feel awful. Sometimes it lasts a day, other times it can last a week.

It’s like a switch flips & I can’t control my thoughts or think logically even though, now, I try but nothing works. Could it be hormones? I literally go from one day being fine to the next day so down & uncontrollable worrying and stress about something small. Does anyone else have this?

OP posts:
NewKidOnTheBlock99 · 30/12/2021 15:15

Bump!

OP posts:
CrackerGal · 30/12/2021 16:40

Sounds to me like intrusive thoughts?

ScabbyHorse · 30/12/2021 16:49

Yes could be hormonal as I am definitely like this before my period. Also anxiety related. But maybe as it's to do with relationships it could be attachment related. Have you had therapy? It could really help you. Do you know your attachment style?

NewKidOnTheBlock99 · 31/12/2021 18:34

Thanks for the responses!

@ScabbyHorse I’ve had CBT which I found didn’t really help, and I have had another type of therapy years ago which really helped at the time - the therapist said I had really low self esteem! I deffo have some kind of attachment issues - I don’t tend to worry about anything but friendships; people being mad at me, going off me, leaving me out - weirdly I’m very secure in my romantic relationship. I hate it, I know I’m just worrying unnecessarily but can’t make it stop :(

I’ve just made some new mum friends and already so stressed out by certain elements of the friendships!

OP posts:
New posts on this thread. Refresh page