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Struggling with hormones or something more?

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Notthegrinch1 · 24/12/2021 06:36

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Im after some advice as to whether i could have some sort of possible mental health condition or if im just not a very nice person.
Its hard to explain but i often find myself sort of checking out on relationships and communications both with partner and family. Everything is fine then suddenly i feel myself going cold, i stop replying to messages, i feel as though im not in the mood to talk to anyone and want to be left alone. When they do try and check in or ask whats wrong as ive suddenly blanked them i end up getting frustrated and confused. Its as though i know they have done nothing wrong but i cant bring myself to emotionally connect and even reply or answer calls i become pretty much an introvert. For example i havent spoke to partner in 2 days or family. Idk why its as though i feel lonely or that i dont want to be a burden Confused. Tonight he thought he would call round and drop off christmas presents. While this should of been taken as a lovely thoughtful idea, i took it the complete wrong way. I felt as though my space was invaded, what this space is idk. I found myself feeling anxious and saying things like why bring presents, i dont need or want presents they wont fix things.

Please be gentle if you reply i cant understand this myself. Most of the time i am a loving free spirited person then i have these periods where its almost as though i feel hurt and alone and as though i just want to be by myself for days ..weeks.

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autieok · 24/12/2021 07:07

It's really hard to say why this happens. It could be mental health and during low moods you just want to burrow away. Which is fine if it helps but if it prolongs the low mood then it would be better to challenge it.

What's your self esteem like? Have you had bad experiences in relationships before? Because it could be a fear of commitment or fear of getting hurt or not feeling deserving of love and attention?

Could it be social anxiety or even just part of being an introvert?

Have you spoke to GP about it or a counsellor/mental health practitioner?

The main question is do you have a problem with it? If yes then you could to try to challenge this behaviour through counselling or mindfulness. If no then maybe just explain to your oh that sometimes you need some space and it's not about them it's about you and ask them to respect your boundaries. It's ok to be you.

I'm autistic and sometimes my behaviour doesn't fit in with societal norms/expectations and I'm trying to work on being ok with that.

AngelsEyeball · 24/12/2021 13:43

Last year I could be such a bitch to the people closest to me because I wanted them to hurt as I just as I was angry. I’d cry through stress, make mistakes at work and get fucked off. Friend suggested I talk to Dr. I did I know on meds for depression and anxiety. Work is still at times shit because others incompetence but I don’t get angry. I still have off days when then slightest thing pissed me off and I get very moody but I come out the other end quicker.

Maybe a chat with Dr would help?

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