On my own and pregnant

[clothesshoes]

I feel so alone, I'm left to do everything myself and none of my family wanted me to have a baby so when I see them the baby is the elephant in the room and the shame I carry. This afternoon I have to figure out how to put a cot up because I have no help and dreading it as I'm so exhausted.

I honestly feel like giving up but I want to be a good mum I've been able to sort a house out for me and baby and I have a good job to support us I'm just so scared of doing it all alone and nobody being there to tell me if I'm doing something wrong.

Has anyone experienced this?

I'm sure most new most new parents feel like that - I'm 16 weeks with a supportive partner and I feel like I haven't got a clue!

Can you do something like NCT to boost your confidence and learn some stuff (I think they do a certain number of free / reduced cost places if you are v low income), there's also websites like Emma's Diary where you can get some freebies and information. They often seem to have offers like free online baby care videos.

That is so hard. I’m sorry you had to build up a cot yourself. It’s very lonely and heartbreaking going through pregnancy without a supportive partner and family.

It’s like a beautiful experience has been taken away from you. You will have to create that joy for yourself and your baby.

And something in your post tells me that you’ll be able to do this.

Have you got friends who support you?

Is there a children's centre near by? They might be able to do some outreach with you and help with prepping for the baby.

Reach out to gp or health centres. I hugged my health visitor when I had DS1 and the contact itself helped me. Sometimes a stranger's kindness can pull you up.

I hope you all the best xxxx