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Health aniexty ruining my life!

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RoastedParsnips · 20/12/2021 20:36

I have a lot of chronic illnesses.
An auto immune condition that's extremely painful, GERD, neurological difficulties, asthma, TMJ and bad teeth that I'm waiting to have out that's taking forever due to waiting lists but it's playing havoc on my TMJ. All diagnosed.

Every twang and pain I'm terrified of and get so scared my conditions are worsening and progressing. It's ruining my life because the pain is pretty much constant so unless I'm asleep I'm constantly worrying which of course plays on the pain and makes it worse!
How do I get out of feeling like this? I had therapy but it didn't help.
I am on Duloxetine and amptriplyine to name a few and my GP said it would control the aniexty along with my neurological problems but it's not helping the aniexty at all I feel like I'm crawling the walls constantly! Sad
Sorry about my appalling spelling. Blush

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MichaelMumsnet · 21/12/2021 16:36

Hi OP, just bumping this one for you in the hope that someone will be able to help.

LapinR0se · 21/12/2021 16:38

I don’t think that’s health anxiety. HA is more like people obsessing over illnesses that they don’t have and imagining symptoms etc. Whereas you are actually sick! You need better pain management and try and hurry the dental appointment along

Sarahlou63 · 21/12/2021 17:07

When you get twangs and pains what do you do?

RoastedParsnips · 21/12/2021 19:00

I've tried to hurry the dental appointment along, I even got my MP involved with NHS England but they did sod all to help saying I just have to wait as the hospital won't see me even though I probably need them surgically removed and have TMJ so they're probably about to make it a hell of a lot worse. HmmConfused
When I get the twangs I rest, listen to music/watch Netflix/read to distract myself but it's awful I can't think about anything else it's really hard to calm myself.Sad

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Sarahlou63 · 21/12/2021 21:46

Every twang and pain I'm terrified of and get so scared my conditions are worsening and progressing.

OK, so what's happening is that when you get a pain you are imagining that your conditions are getting worse. Then you forget that you've only imagined it, so it becomes real in your mind - when in fact nothing has substantially changed.

To compound the problem your sympathetic nervous system can't differentiate between what you imagine and what's real, so your physical stress reaction increases which makes you even more anxious and you tense up - making your actual conditions more painful. Vicious and painful cycle.

You can break it though - that's the good news Smile

That imagination, which is powerful enough to have you climbing the walls, can be redirected. When you are feeling calm and relaxed recreate the best, happiest, loveliest time of your life in your mind; make it as real as you possibly can with the smells, sounds, tastes, feelings and sights that you remember. Practice it often to make it really strong in your imagination and deepen it by associating it with a physical sensation such as hugging yourself or stroking your face. Then, when you feel a twang or a pain hug yourself and bring back that memory - it will instantly calm you and replace your anxiety with feel good endorphins.

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