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Struggling - please help me feel more Christmassy.

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foreverlove · 19/12/2021 17:57

I don't think I could feel less Christmassy if I tried. As well as the threat of a lockdown looming and all the associated uncertainty.

DB has announced he is separating from his wife. This has made me and DH extremely sad. Unlike to see two DN's again after the split and feeling sad for them and SIL.

One nephew and two nieces have Covid, one is quite ill with it.

Above Covid cases mean Christmas and DH birthday plans now in jeopardy because of isolation periods.

Due to leave a job this week which nearly destroyed my mental health, but since I resigned, got better and colleagues became nicer. Have another job lined up for first week of January but looking like it might fall through. Three weeks on from accepting their offer and signing a Statement of Employment Particulars they haven't even sent me a bank details form yet or added me to the payroll! Starting to think I've made a mistake in resigning.

DH is miserable because it's his big birthday soon and because plans might well be cancelled. We both miss the Christmases we used to have with our families.

No friends to go out with for coffee, drinks, lunch or dinner, or just for a walk with.

Having moved twice in the space of 11 years for DH's job, and now living 3 hours away from my hometown and family.

Absolutely nothing to look forward to. No holidays, nothing. Seeing other people - mainly 'influencers' with perfect lives and booking holidays makes me feel sad and like there's something wrong with my life.

Haven't wrapped any Christmas presents yet as not feeling like it.

Sorry this is so long, and thanks for reading.

OP posts:
theSunday · 21/12/2021 09:33

Here’s a big hug! Sounds like there’s a handful of things bothering you right now and I’m so sorry to hear Flowers

Do you want to feel Christmassy?

That’s a bunch of practical stuff you can do… candles, fresh cut pine, decorate the tree, bake, cook, hot chocolate, walks (even alone!), and put an Xmas playlist on to wrap those presents to!

The rest is coping with the uncertainty and we’re all in the same boat right now. I’m not sure what to say about that really, my family Christmas has already fallen through so I guess that’s better than the not knowing.

Distract yourself with Christmas activities Smile

The job thing is nail biting I admit. Again, I’d say practical steps, call them? And if you resigned that’s a sign the job wasn’t for you?

theSunday · 21/12/2021 09:36

you know the influencers stage a lot of their posts as well, behind the curtain is never so pretty, it’s a facade.

Life isn’t perfect. Embrace it with all its sh*t.

theSunday · 21/12/2021 09:37

And can you plan something to look forward to?

Notgettingbetter · 21/12/2021 12:11

I'm seeing Christmas as something to get through this year. I feel absolutely nothing positive about it. 2021 has possibly been the worst year of my life so far and I want to see the back of it as soon as possible.

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