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Am I right to feel low

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itscomplicatedlife · 18/12/2021 13:56

Been Feeling very low about my life lately, we had a rocky start in the working world and no matter how hard I tried I couldn't earn more then I do, I just hit my coping ceiling, my other half was so much cleverer than me and can cope better with stress worked a lot of shifts for years meaning at wknds we didn't see a lot of eachother and he wanted to save up as felt it was a good idea to try and move us to a better area as the plan was at the start to have 2 children, we got married at 28 & moved out of our tiny house into our family size home at 30 but it took just over 4 yrs until I became pregnant, this was hard to take when people my own age were having theirs at 26-28. I'm now 37 and my daughter is 2.5. My birth turned in to a disaster and was in incredible pain for months after and she didn't sleep well at all she woke servers times most nihhts until about 8 months ago. To top it off my mum died 7 wks after she was born as was diagnosed with late stage cancer just before I got pregnant then we had to endure covid when my dd was 6mo and my hubby had a terrible stomach issue on mat leave whic turned out to be colitis, hereditary from his nan and his nephew just got diagnosed. He's just started a flare a few days ago before Xmas! I just feel down about his stomach it's hard to have friends for dinner with this as he can't get involved much and he's also realised being around kids he's not great at, I feel so down, I'm worried to death about his health and how it'll effect life in the future and worry so much now if anything happens to me as our dd is only 2.5! Life's busy got on top of me maybe I need a reality check of some sort it's just hard to see any positives through all this

I don't have a lot of family either since we had our daughter my DH family have just not bothered it's awful it's just not how it was supposed to be!

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BHX3000 · 18/12/2021 14:31

First of all OP, it's alright to feel low about anything. Anytime.

Second - wow! You've had some terribly difficult years and of course you're allowed to be worried, feel low, and not be okay. Of course you're allowed that, you've gone through so much.

It sounds as though you have been doing your absolute best, despite all the difficult situations you've been navigating. I am really sorry to hear about your mum, and your husband's condition, but congratulations on your daughter!

Is he on medication, or under a doctor or specialist who is keeping an eye on how his condition is developing? Are you able to access any help through them?

Don't feel like you should be happy and positive all the time. It's perfectly normal to feel depressed or exhausted with half the mental load you're carrying right now.

I don't have a lot of practical advice but just wanted to say that I hear you, and I'm sending you a big hug Flowers You've done amazing so far!

itscomplicatedlife · 18/12/2021 21:17

@BHX3000 Thank you so much for listening and replying!! It means a lot! Some days it all
Hey gets on top of you and you just need to talk to some one about it. DH is on meds now finally
And under a consultant just always panics me when a flare kicks off and it's so annoying close to Christmas I feel really sorry for him, such a difficult thing to have to live with 😔

Luckily we have just met a couple of new friends for my daughter and had a couple of very good play date meet ups which has made us feel so much better, we did one this evening and it went so well! 🙏 all the adults had a great time and so did the kids so it was great for everyone which just made things seem so much better! Hopefully a successful friendship on the way for the future!

Thank you again, im glad someone out there heard and listened it helps a lot! X x x x

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