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Support for partner - advice please

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satsumaddict · 09/12/2021 14:40

Hello, I have for a long time known my husband suffered a hard childhood, he physically shudders when we see his, now recovered alcohol/drug addict mother and now lives in a house in the middle of nowhere and sees barely anyone. Anyway since the terrible case of Arthur came into the news I have started asking him more questions about his upbringing which he would say he didn’t remember before, and the abuse from his mother and stepfather was beyond horrific, horrifying and he still can’t even tell me any real details just the fear and triggers for it! Like Arthur his brother and sister led normalish lives at the house. My husband has nightmares where he screams every night and marks on his back which he told me were stretchmatks are actually not and he probably actually needed skingrafts as a child!!! Anyway I am totally consumed by this and been crying non stop (I am also pregnant) - I don’t know what to do to help him or if I need help myself now. I want to call the police and his evil mum be arrested. But we are talking 20 years since. He is now having therapy for PTSD but I feel like we are at the bottom of Everest with it all and not sure what to do :(

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Wolfiefan · 09/12/2021 14:41

Why on earth do you have to see her?
You can’t solve this for him. You need to protect yourself and your child.

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