Can't

[alwayslostinlife]

I don't no how to deal with life I don't think it's depression I honestly don't think I can handle life in general I do the bare minimum to get by
When I was young I rushed having children to have a life and now I ruin life for them.
It's Xmas ive no one no family literally no one and I've got to make it happy for them but I don't no how it's the same day as any other in here just me and theM
I wish we weren't allowed to make decisions untill we we're at least 28 I can't give them what I lack in myself there are no family gatherings of traditions no get together or meals and the more it is pushed on me the worse it is.
Work friends school mums my ex and there family all over social media I can't even look no more
Please tell me I'm not the only one who is like this 😢

I'm so sorry you are feeling like this, social media is absolutely awful when you're feeling low and I think it's really healthy to take a break from it, I often have to. What is it that you want to be able to give your children but feel that you lack in yourself? What do you mean about the more it is pushed on you the worse it is?

Are you getting any support from GP or anyone else?

Ahh I completely agree that social media can be such an easy way of making yourself feel shit. I came off Facebook about a year ago and Instagram two weeks ago.
How old are your kids?

Your children love you, they will be happy to have attention from you. There are always people with more money, status, friends. A lot of social media prestige is fake. What is most meaningful is good long term relationships. That is the best gift you can give to your children.

I think its important to remember all these people posting on SM it seems to me are generally lacking in their own lives and do this for gratification. Probably feeling just as tou are but are dealing with it in a different way. I seen a post from someone the other day and it was 3 people she hates. The first was attention seekers - oh the irony.

You do sound rather down but the good thing is you have recognised it. Obviously your kids haven't noticed so you're a fab mum! Can you try get a gp appointment or contact Mind?

OP, how old are your children?

I remember my mom made christmas fun by involving us in the planning and execution of it. They were good lessons too. I find that it works best when you don't set your standards for the celebration to instagram levels of "perfect", but just focus on enjoying the time together.

Let them do the decorating with minimal supervision from you. You'll probably love the crazy christmas tree you'll have in your house. Kids can get quite wild when it comes to decorating.

As for food, keep it simple and bake some christmas cookies with them.

@CaptSkippy

OP, how old are your children?

I remember my mom made christmas fun by involving us in the planning and execution of it. They were good lessons too. I find that it works best when you don't set your standards for the celebration to instagram levels of "perfect", but just focus on enjoying the time together.

Let them do the decorating with minimal supervision from you. You'll probably love the crazy christmas tree you'll have in your house. Kids can get quite wild when it comes to decorating.

As for food, keep it simple and bake some christmas cookies with them.

Sorry all I don't no how to reply on here ky not showing me any options. My child are 3 in teen years and one 5 year old. 3 year Ago my ex husband left and it's I've always had Xmas with a partners family but I've no one now and I've nothin to give my children that way. We will be sat here having dinner just like any normal day nothing to do no one to see until they go there dads and see there family but then I will be alone anyways which I think I prefer So I don't have to entertain the kids when I don't no how x