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Coping with no friends or support

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rosequartz8 · 26/11/2021 16:46

I'm 36 and been suffering from depression and also have PTSD the last 5 years. In that time, the loneliness has been absolutely crushing. I have no friends despite getting involved in so many different activities. I had a best friend of many years, but we fell out 2 years ago, when I was going through a hard time she just announced she "didn't need me anymore" which left me devastated.

I have a close relationship with my mother but don't want to be putting my problems onto her because she has her own worries. I have a sister who hates my very existence and couldn't care whether I live or die and it's always been this way, despite me trying over the years to have some kind of relationship with her, I gave up because it was exhausting.

I have chrons disease so am unable to work, so that has been really difficult aswell. When things with covid settle down, I really hope to volunteer for something.

I'm just finding it very hard to cope right now. I honestly feel if I died tomorrow, nobody would even turn up at my funeral and this loneliness is eating me up bit by bit everyday. I am usually able to get on with things and try not to feel sorry for myself, but for some reason it all feels really heavy today and I've been having suicidal thoughts on and off aswell.

Only last week I started to see a new therapist and she was very compassionate which will hopefully help. I just wish I could get rid of the sense of despair that I feel and the fact I feel there is something wrong with me when I see others around me never struggling with friendship

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rainbowninja · 26/11/2021 16:55

Hi @rosequartz8,

You're not alone with these types of thoughts and feelings. I'm so glad you shared here, I have PTSD too and you're right, the loneliness when you can't work etc is a huge factor. And it affects family relationships too, I've seen that myself. Offering you a handhold to help you through today and always happy to chat.

What kind of volunteering do you think you'll do?

rosequartz8 · 26/11/2021 17:49

@rainbowninja thanks for your kindness. I'm sorry you also have PTSD and agree that it can really affect family relationships too. I think when I feel a bit stronger I would love to volunteer for an organisation like Women's Aid and help other women who have been through physical or emotional abuse

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rainbowninja · 26/11/2021 19:18

That sounds like a great aim @rosequartz8

There are people in this world that will benefit from your experience ❤️

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