My teenage niece turned up at our house in tears at midnight after a row with her mum, who has deteriorating undiagnosed mental health issues and is drinking heavily. Her dad stepped in to defend her and then they were all arguing. My niece is a sensible kid beyond her years and this is unlike her. No one came after her, though BIL offered to walk her here and my niece declined and so they let her go! No one called me to check all was ok either. I did text bil to say their child was safe and would stay here as I knew dsis was probably v drunk and irrational . He thanked me and that was it
By the end of the following day, I realised I was angry. Ended up speaking to my sister at 4pm who was acting as if it were no big deal, just a row, one of those things. I had a wtf moment and thought this should be a wake up call but no. She tried to blame her dh, I don't know the half of it and said I was judgmental. She was more worried about my character assassination than the effect on her daughter, who has anxiety issues as it is.
I begged her to get help, which her dh has been trying to do for monthsas i have before but she takes massive offence and blames everyone else.
What do I do? I asked MIND for advice and they said contact her gp or social services. I don't want to do the latter and she would know it was me