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feeling so low

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fostermum · 14/11/2004 10:32

hi not sure which section this should go in,but im feeling so bad, im a foster mum and we had one child for 3 years and he became as my own we where going to adopt him but he was into drugs and we couldnt help him how ever we tried,twice he was moved from us the first time he said he would try to change and we took him back with open arms,but he went straight back to it,so he had to move again.
i miss him so much, all i know is he runs where ever they put him,something he didnt do here,hes out of control completly,but i want to give it another go,part of the reason for his last move was the effect he was having on my other children but they all have places of there own now, and they want him home as much as i do, but the social services are adiment he cant come back, no phone calls letters twice a year and thats it, i feel like my heart is braking worrying where he is ,how he is ect,my family placement officer is on our side but the child social worker isnt she says she would be the one to move him again if it fell apart again, but surly she is having to do that with him now, if i only knew where he was and how he was i could rest

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miam · 14/11/2004 11:05

Really feel for you fostermum. You care so much for this little boy. I do not have any experience of this, but wanted to bump your thread so hopefully someone else can help you more. Hugs xx

shrub · 14/11/2004 11:12

is there any way or anyone you can lodge an appeal with?

fostermum · 14/11/2004 11:15

no ive asked, social worker gets last word,she has even said its because of the trouble it will cause her!whos the one we are suppose to be helping here?

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MummyToSteven · 14/11/2004 11:17

fostermum sorry you are going through such a bad time atm. how old is this child? just wondering if he could come back to you once he turned 16/18, or whether that would be a financial impossibility.

fostermum · 14/11/2004 11:33

he was 16 last thursday, trouble is we have moved house since he was moved and social worker wont tell him where we are,he has no family to turn to hes an orphan i cant get phone number or address to him as i can only go via social worker

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jampot · 14/11/2004 11:36

If you have a photo can you get some posters made up (not sure if this is allowed) maybe try and see him at his "haunts" and at least give him a mobile no. so he can stay in touch. It must be very hard for you xx

fostermum · 14/11/2004 11:41

i cant go to his haunts as hes been moved so many times i dont know whetre he is, and i would get him mobile but the only way to get it to him is through social worker and she would say no,as it is she reads our letters in case qwe give a clue to where we are, its bloody farcical

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nightowl · 15/11/2004 00:43

how awful that you want him so much yet cant get to him. dont know anything that could help you unfortunatly. sorry youre going through this x

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