I’m in my late 30’s and my Mum has had severe mental health illness all of my life. She has always had an eating disorder, severe depression self harming etc. I can understand all of these and have learned throughout my childhood and teens to live with them just being part of my mum. But I’m really struggling with the Bi Polar. I get periods of time when she is chatty, almost hyperactive or elated. She spends uncontrollably and doesn’t always remember the buying. But then she can angry, not irritable but like a rage that gets directed at someone and she seems to have no control. Most recently it has been directed at me for something really trivial. I’ve had days of nasty angry phone calls and emails. Is this normal in Bi Polar? She seems in her mind utterly convinced she is right and even after the episode passes will not acknowledge it or apologise. I want to make allowances because of her illness but how much (if any) control does she have over the hurtful things she says?